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Mangalore: Male Infant Found Abandoned near Bus Station

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 31, 2007

Mangalore, Jul 31: A two-day-old baby was found abandoned in service bus stand here on Sunday July 29 afternoon.

The male baby wrapped in a cloth was spotted by a bus conductor who on seeing the wailing infant, immediately alerted the Mangalore South (Pandeshwar) police station.

The police then in turn took the baby to the nearby Lady Goschen Government Women’s Hospital. Nothing is yet known about the parents of the baby or even about the person who left it in the bus stand.  However, sources have claimed that the baby might have been either the result of extra-marital or pre-marital relationship and that the mother has abandoned fearing the society.

A case has been registered in Mangalore Women’s police station in this regard.

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Congress HP Min vulgar birthday party at a hotel in Macleodgunj

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

Shimla, July 29: Himachal Pradesh Transport and Tourism Minister G S Bali resigned on Sunday from the cabinet in the wake of a TV channel`s expose into his alleged vulgar birthday party at a hotel in MacLeodgunj, about 200 km from here.

Chief Minister Virbhadra Singh said that Bali submitted his resignation to him which has been accepted.

“Bali submitted his resignation to me late last night which I faxed to Governor V S Kokje. I received a communication from the Raj Bhawan that Bali`s resignation has been accepted,” Singh told reporters.

Reacting to the TV channel`s expose, the BJP demanded immediate dismissal of the Congress government in the hill state and imposition of President`s rule there.

Addressing media persons in Palampur in Kangra district, senior BJP leader Prem Kumar Dhumal asked the Governor to dismiss Virbhadra Singh government immediately and recommend President`s rule so that free and fair elections are held in the state.

The Chief Minister said though Bali told him that the sting operation seemed to be motivated as it allegedly showed only a part of his birthday celebration on July 26 night, without going into merit or demerit of the incident, “I asked him to resign from the cabinet to keep high tradition and values the Congress believed in”.

The TV expose purportedly showed Bali dancing with some women. He and his friends, a few industrialists and bureaucrats reportedly joined him in the party that continued till late in the night on July 26.

Singh said Bali told him that his friends, some of whom are NRIs, had organised the party at a hotel in MacLeodganj.

He (Bali) had gone there with his wife, daughter and other family members and left the venue shortly after cutting the cake, the Chief Minister said quoting Bali.

Asked if any inquiry would be ordered into the incident in the wake of a report that many officials and businessmen were present in the “splendid” party, Singh said it would be decided later.

Singh, who had attended a children function on July 27 at Nagrota (Bali`s Assembly constituency in Kangra district) organised to mark minister`s birthday, took a dig at the opposition BJP for trying to throw mud on the government in the wake of the expose.

“I saw BJP leader Prem Kumar Dhumal on TV channel demanding resignation of the whole Himachal cabinet in the wake of the TV channel expose. One BJP MLA was also shown in the expose, I ask BJP what action the party is contemplating against him,” the Chief Minister said.

He said it was a one-off incident and would have no impact on the image of the Congress government in the hill state. The Chief Minister said the transport and tourism portfolios will be with him till further arrangements.

Terming the sting operation as “motivated” and “part of conspiracy” against him, Bali demanded a judicial inquiry by a sitting high court judge into his conduct in the party.

“I will write to Chief Minister Virbhadra Singh to order a judicial inquiry by a sitting judge of the High Court into my conduct in the birthday party captured through sting operation by a TV channel,” Bali told reporters.

With Bali`s resignation, the strength of the state cabinet has been reduced to 10 including the Chief Minister against a total capacity of 12 as per the Constitutional limitation.

The Assembly elections in Himachal Pradesh are due in February next year.

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Elopement cases: Girls getting bolder

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

CHANDIGARH: If elopement cases are any indicator, then youngsters from the middle and lower middle class seem to be getting bolder and smarter.

While parents try to get the boys booked for abduction and rape, the love-lorn girls, apparently under legal guidance, scuttle their parents schemes. They boldly declare that they had eloped on their own accord.

A police officer who has handled such cases said in most of these cases, girls send a telegram to police and court suggesting that she has eloped with the man of her choice out of her own free will. As a result, most of the cases of abduction and rape fall flat. UT police has been registering cases under sections 363 and 366 (kidnapping and abducting or inducing a woman to compel her to marry) of IPC, despite knowing the fact that youngsters have eloped on their own accord, because of pressure and some other reasons. According to police records, these kind of cases ultimately get cancelled.

In 2006, 65 cases under these sections had been registered by UT police. Out of these, 23 cases were cancelled after investigations, 5 cases could not be traced, 4 are still under investigation and 23 are in court. In 2007, till June, 33 cases have been registered. Out of this, 25 cases are under investigation, 4 have been cancelled, 1 is untraced and 2 are in court. Officials, who have investigated such cases suggests that if the girl informs the police either by phone or by any other way, then no case can be registered.

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What’s the legal difference between annulment and divorce?

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

There are two ways to legally end a marriage – annulment and divorce. An annulment is a legal procedure which cancels a marriage between a man and a woman. Annulling a marriage is as though it is completely erased – legally, it declares that the marriage never technically existed and was never valid. A divorce, or legal dissolution of a marriage, is the ending of a valid marriage between a man and a woman returning both parties to single status with the ability to remarry. While each individual state has its own laws regarding the grounds for an annulment or for a divorce, certain requirements apply nationwide. 

An annulment case can be initiated by either the husband or the wife in the marriage. The party initiating the annulment must prove that he or she has the grounds to do so and if it can be proven, the marriage will be considered null and void by the court. The following is a list of common grounds for annulment and a short explanation of each point:

Bigamy – either party was already married to another person at the time of the marriage

Forced Consent – one of the spouses was forced or threatened into marriage and only entered into it under duress

Fraud – one of the spouses agreed to the marriage based on the lies or misrepresentation of the other

Marriage Prohibited By Law – marriage between parties that based on their familial relationship is considered incestuous

Mental Illness – either spouse was mentally ill or emotionally disturbed at the time of the marriage

Mental Incapacity – either spouse was under the influence of alcohol or drugs at the time of the marriage and was unable to make informed consent

Inability to Consummate Marriage – either spouse was physically incapable of having sexual relations or impotent during the marriage

Underage Marriage – either spouse was too young to enter into marriage without parental consent or court approval

Depending on your state of residence, a divorce can be much more complicated than an annulment. Like annulment cases, each state has its own set of laws regarding divorce. In most divorce cases, marital assets are divided and debts are settled. If the marriage has produced children, a divorce proceeding determines custody of the children, visitation rights and spousal and child support issues.

Each state can have either a “no-fault” divorce or a “fault” divorce. A no-fault divorce allows the dissolution of a legal marriage with neither spouse being named the “guilty party” or the cause for the marital break-up.

Many states now offer the “no-fault” divorce option, a dissolution of a legal marriage in which neither party accepts blame for the marital break-up. In the absence of a “guilty party,” some states require a waiting period of a legal separation before a no-fault divorce can take place. For this reason, in addition to cases where one spouse wishes to assign blame, some parties seek to expedite the legal process by pursuing a traditional, “fault” divorce.

A “fault” divorce is only granted when one spouse can prove adequate grounds. Like an annulment, these grounds vary from state to state, however, there are some overarching commonalities. These guidelines often include addition to drugs, alcohol or gambling, incurable mental illness, and conviction of a crime. The major grounds for divorce that apply in every state are listed below:

Adultery – one or both spouses engages in extramarital relationships with others during the marriage

Desertion – one spouse abandons the other, physically and emotionally, for a lengthy period of time

Physical/Emotional Abuse – one spouse subjects the other to physical or violent attacks or emotional or psychological abuse such as abusive language, and threats of physical violence

Your state law and particular situation will determine whether or not your annulment or divorce will be simple or complex. Familiarizing yourself with the laws for your particular state is the best way to learn what your rights are in the case of a marital dissolution.

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Why is the divorce rate climbing up?

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

REMARKED A wit “The rapidly increasing divorce rate indicates that we are indeed becoming the land of the free. Yes, replied his practical friend, but the continuing marriage rate suggests this is still the home of the brave.”

This being the age of instant gratification, people seem to marry in haste and walk out of it in post haste as well. Renowned criminal, constitutional and family lawyer Ms. Geetha Ramseshan says, “More divorce cases are coming to court but this does not mean marital discord did not exist earlier.” There are two kinds of marital litigation — one dealing with divorce, custody of children and other matters incidental to divorce and the other kind in which the affected party files for maintenance only. Since social stigma is still associated with divorce in the mofussil areas, many file for maintenance alone. Individuals in both rural and urban areas are becoming more aware of their rights. Ms. Ramseshan says that filing for maintenance is sufficient indication of an unsuccessful or unhappy partnership — and this is becoming a rather alarming trend.”

But reputed psychiatrist Dr. Rudran says that though separation rates among educated youth are rising, this is bound to happen when any culture goes through change. “This should not cause unnecessary fear,” he adds.

Dr. Poppy Kannan, Head of the Department of Social Work, Stella Mari’s College, has dealt with more cases of separation rather than legal divorce. She claims that all the ladies in question have not re-married but continue to stay single.

Today’s women are well-educated and hold jobs that ensure their economic independence. They are confident enough to walk out of a bad marriage unlike the previous generation of women who tolerated anything, explains Dr. Sunithi Soloman, Director, YRG Centre for AIDS Research and Education (CARE), Chennai.

Dr. Rudra claims that the psychological threat currently faced by boys in India could be responsible for the rising separation rate. “Men are brought up to believe that they will be the main providers for the family. It is hard for them to face the fact that girls today are equally well-educated and are capable of earning more than them.”

Ms. Ramaseshan cites several reasons for opting out of marriages — rising violence, cruelty, character assassination, alcoholism, problems of adjustment especially in a joint family, growing individualism of the wrong kind, extramarital affairs and the undesirable impact of the outside world in terms of falling values and lack of role models. According to Dr. Sunithi, parents are the best role models for children. Love and affection between the parents, appreciation and adjustment as well as practising what they preach fosters the right environment within the family, she addsAlthough he feels 25 + is the ideal age for marriage for girls and 27 + for boys, Dr Rudran said that numbers were not significant — it is just that marriages should not be rushed into. The opportune time is when both parties have finished their formal education, have jobs and are able to fend for themselves. Dr. Rudran explains that seeking professional help at the earliest sign of discord would be helpful since counselling teaches coping mechanisms that often work wonders. According to him, communication between husband and wife and children is an important factor for averting failures of any kind. When parents are available and ready to communicate, children rarely go astray. “Unfortunately TV viewing is eating up into this intra-family chat time,” he says. This could cause problems in the future, he adds.

Strife, discord and separation would cease or reduce if people realised and attempted to live out the truth in this oft-quoted statement on marriage. “Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated. Often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing by cutting anyone who comes between them.”

THARA MOHAN RAO

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Divorce soars in India’s middle class

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

Divorce rates are soaring among India’s newly affluent middle classes, as working women with independent incomes refuse to submit to the traditional ideal of marriage.

Cases in New Delhi have doubled in five years to a projected figure of 8,000 for 2005, with similar rises seen in Calcutta, Bombay and Bangalore.

Most marriages are still arranged by the parents, with the bride and groom meeting on only two or three occasions before the ceremony.

The bride is expected to move into her husband’s house where – for the first four or five years at least – the couple get to know each other under guidance of their joint or extended family.

But a new breed of independently-minded women is often not well-adapted to this role.

The virtues of individualism and self-reliance that are prized by employers who are vying for the services of bright young graduates do not sit easily with the accepted role of a Hindu wife.

In Bangalore, India’s showcase tech-city, where women work in call centres and as IT managers, the number of divorces tripled between 1988 and 2002.

Opinion is divided over what the phenomenon means: for traditionalists the rising numbers portend the breakdown of society while, for some modernists, they speak of a healthy new empowerment for women.

“The belief that marriage is sacred has disappeared among some of these girls,” said Vandana Sharma, the president of the Women’s Protection League in New Delhi. Her organisation runs pre-marriage classes to help women adapt. “We try to teach them how to live in their joint families – how to serve their husbands and their family – because we believe this is the most stable environment for newly wedded couples.

“In our experience love marriages encounter far more problems because couples are left to cope alone and cannot rely on the support and moral guidance of their parents.”

But many “new women” are not so sure. A survey by India Today magazine was filled with accounts of how previously independent women found themselves virtually imprisoned after marriage.

The Manu Smriti, the ancient Hindu texts which list acceptable codes of behaviour, say that from the day she is married until the day she dies a wife must be “joyous, adept at domestic work, keep her domestic wares clean and be thrifty”.

But one recent divorcee, a 26-year-old teacher from Bombay, said she knew on her honeymoon that her marriage was doomed: her husband ordered her to eat her dinner, even though she was not hungry. Another said she was forbidden to wear skirts and was berated if she arrived home late from work.

For Ranjana Kumari, a sociologist and author of Brides are not for Burning, rising divorce rates are an indicator of women’s empowerment. “In the past,” she said, “women had little or no choice but to stay with their husbands except in instances of extreme abuse or cruelty.

“They had to tolerate it, to learn to live with their men. With economic empowerment, that is no longer so.”

The social stigma of divorce has also receded. Gitanath Ganguly, a broadcaster and chairman of the West Bengal legal aid service, recalled making a television programme on divorce in 1976.

“In those days if a woman got divorced her family would hide her in a separate room, even from her uncles and aunts because of the shame it brought on the family. Attitudes have totally changed.”

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Dowry case against HRD Minister Arjun Singh

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

A case under the Anti-Dowry Act has been registered against Union Human Resources Minister Arjun Singh, his wife Beena Singh, son Abhimanyu Singh, grandson Abhijeet Singh and three others at a police station in Moradabad late on Sunday, the police said.

The case has been registered on the direction of Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate, Chandausi, on a complaint by Madhvendra Singh, the father of the Union minister’s daughter-in-law Priyanka Singh, Moradabad district police chief Prem Prakash told PTI.

The court had ordered the registration of the case on July 27 but the FIR was registered at Chandausi Kotwali police station Sunday, he said.

Madhvendra Singh has alleged that his daughter’s in-laws had been demanding a Mercedes car and a flat from him and his daughter was being tortured when their demand was not met, Prakash said.

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Ensure shelter for Pooja: NCW to State Govt

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 30, 2007

New Delhi, July 26: Nothing that Pooja Chauhan, who walked semi-nude on the streets of Rajkot to get justice, was a victim of sexual exploitation, the NCW has asked State Government to ensure she gets protection, shelter and counselling. Pooja was a victim of domestic violence, NCW chairperson Girija Vyas said, adding it was after NCW intervention that police registered a case against Pooja’s in-laws. A four-member panel headed by NCW member Malini Bhattacharya, that visited Rajkot on July 3, also found that the media has been unduly overbearing in as much as repeated interviews, causing her stress and unleashing a backlash from society at large.

The Commission noted that a CD has been circulating on the semi-nude walk by Pooja that has so far not been investigated by the police and said the issue should be dealt with at the earliest.

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Letter to Human Rights Org

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 29, 2007

Respected Sir / Madam

I`m 65 year old widow from india; I have two daughters and a son, my son and one daughter is already married and staying in different cities, far away from my house.

Last year one night police came and arrested me and my younger daughter, and dragged us to police station, they abused and humiliated me and my daughter without any reason. we were subjected to many types of in human treatments and insults, we were arrested without Bail and charges were non compoundable.

My Other daughter was also arrested similar way, she was pregnent at that time,still they draged her to jail, and subjected same cruel treatment. Even they did not spare her 2 year old breast fed daughter, she was also in jail because she cann`t stay away without mother.

After 2 weeks, and paying huge sums of money we were released on bail, now said case is going on. Lawyers demanding for more money and judge refuse to listen to us.

Now after this arrest no one is ready to marry my daughter, and we are sepearted from my son family and i have denied access to see my grandson.

My son married to a girl whom he loved, its love marriage and there was no dowry involved nor i interfer in thier life and stayed far away from them.

Few days back,before all this happend, my son found out that his wife is having affair and questioned her, as indian judiciary and law system says married women can sleep with her lover and husband has no right to object her, but what was my mistakes ? my daughter never done any wrong to our daughter in law, still she named us all in her false dowry case.

My son never took or demanded any dowry

Nor we visted him, niether they stayed with us. just on one word of that women police took action and arrested even breast feeding innocent child.

Under this law [ IPC 498A ] there will no in enquiry or investigation, women one word is enough to file charge sheet, and this section is non bailable and compoundable.

This is a human right violation and crime against humanity, its corrupt indian government sponsored legal terrorism.

Indian law system, and judiciary know there is 98% misuse in this law, but there is no change in this law since 1983,so everyday thousands of innocent arrested all over India. and for NRI, interpol issue RED NOTICE, without checking truth behind such complaints.

Some Indian women ministeres boldly boast, with the support of National commission for women (NCW) its time for men to suffer, it means this law is used to harass men and his family. Indian law will support one women (false Reason) and harass many other women thats how indian government eMpower women. They think after arresting husband and his family his wife live happily in that house or all her problems solved.

Under this law many innocent are harassed than solved their problems.and its Human right Violation. with this situation i`m not the only one, you can many such victims tortured under this law on

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PLEASE STOP THIS LEGAL TERRORISM

in behalf of thousand innocent Indian women.

For http://mynation.net
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Experts say boys are in a crisis. Here’s why they got it wrong

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 29, 2007

By DAVID VON DREHLE Fri Jul 27, 5:10 PM ET

My son was born nearly 10 years ago, and I remember telling him that morning that he was one lucky baby. Forget Dr. Spock or Dr. Brazelton–I took my cue from Dr. Pangloss. If this was not the best of all possible worlds, it was certainly the best time and best place to be starting out healthy and free in a land of vast possibilities. In the months and years that followed, however, there came a steady stream of books and essays warning that I had missed something ominous: our little guy had entered a soul-crushing world of anti-boy influences.

There was, for example, Harvard psychologist William Pollack’s Real Boys (1998), which asserted that contemporary boys are “scared and disconnected,” “severely lagging” behind girls in both achievement and self-confidence. The following year, journalist Susan Faludi argued in Stiffed that the cold calculus of global economics was emasculating American men. In 2000 philosopher Christina Hoff Sommers blamed off-the-rails feminism for sparking The War Against Boys, and two years later writer Elizabeth Gilbert found The Last American Man living in a teepee in the Appalachian Mountains. By the time our boy was headed to third grade, magazine editors were grinding out cover headlines like BOY TROUBLE and THE BOY CRISIS, and I was getting worried. The voyage to manhood had come to seem as perilous and flummoxing as the future of Iraq.

It’s enough to make people long for the good old days. Sure enough, one of the hot books of the summer is a zestfully nostalgic celebration of boyhood past. The Dangerous Book for Boys, by brothers Hal and Conn Iggulden, flits from fossils to tree houses, from secret codes to go-carts, from the Battle of Gettysburg to the last voyage of Robert Falcon Scott. A sensation last year in Britain, the book has been at or near the top of the New York Times best-seller list since late spring.

The Dangerous Book, bound in an Edwardian red cover with marbled endpapers, has many of the timeless qualities of an ideal young man: curiosity, bravery and respectfulness; just enough rogue to leaven the stoic; an appetite for any challenge, from hunting small game to mastering the rules of grammar. It celebrates trial and error, vindicates the noble failure. Rudyard Kipling would have loved it.

These charms alone can’t explain the popularity of an amalgam of coin tricks, constellations and homemade magnets, however. Clearly, The Dangerous Book has tapped into a larger anxiety about how we’re raising young men. This is a subject worth digging into, because it reflects not just on our sons but also on their sisters, on the kind of world these kids might make together–and on the adults who love them, however imperfect we prove to be. With fresh eyes on fresh facts, we might find that an upbeat message to a newborn boy is not so misguided after all.

THE MYTH OF THE BOY CRISIS

“I don’t think anyone will deny that girls are academically superior as a group. Girls are more academically powerful. They make the grades, they run the student activities, they are the valedictorians.”

Christina Hoff Sommers, a fellow at the American Enterprise Institute, was explaining how she came to worry deeply about boys. In the book-lined parlor of her suburban Washington home, she ticked through a familiar but disturbing indictment: More boys than girls are in special-education classes. More boys than girls are prescribed mood-managing drugs. This suggests to her (and others) that today’s schools are built for girls, and boys are becoming misfits. As a result, more boys than girls drop out of high school. Boys don’t read as well as girls. And America’s prisons are packed with boys and former boys.

Meanwhile, fewer boys than girls take the SAT. Fewer boys than girls apply to college. Fewer boys than girls, in annual surveys of college freshmen, express a passion for learning. And fewer boys than girls are earning college degrees. Even sperm counts are falling. “It’s true at every level of society” that boys are stumbling behind, Sommers continued.

Observers of the boy crisis contend that families, schools and popular culture are failing our boys, leaving them restless bundles of anxiety–misfits in the classroom and video-game junkies at home. They suffer from an epidemic of “anomie,” as Harvard psychologist William Pollack told me, adrift in a world of change without the help they need to find their way. Even in the youngest grades, test-oriented teachers focus energy on conventional exercises in reading, writing and other seatwork, areas in which girls tend to excel. At the same time, schools are cutting science labs, physical education and recess, where the experiential learning styles of boys come into play. No wonder, the theory goes, our boys get jittery, grow disruptive and eventually tune out. “A boy will get a reputation as hell on wheels that follows him from one teacher to the next, and soon they’re coming down on him even before he screws up. So he learns to hate school,” says Mike Miller, an elementary school teacher in North Carolina. Miller’s principal has ordered every faculty member to read a book this summer titled Hear Our Cry: Boys in Crisis.

In short, society treats “boyhood as toxic, as a pathology,” says Sommers–who may have been guilty of this herself when she wrote several years ago that the Columbine killers were emblematic of turn-of-the-century boyhood. But she’s right that it’s not girls who are shooting up their classrooms–and boys are at least five times as likely as girls to die by suicide.

There are statistics to back up every point in that sad litany, but I also found people eager to flay nearly every statistic. For instance: Is it bad that more boys are in special education, or should we be pleased that they are getting extra help from specially trained teachers? And haven’t boys always tended to be more restless than girls under the discipline of high school and more likely to wind up in jail? A growing congregation of writers have begun to argue that the trouble with boys is mostly a myth. Sara Mead is one; she was until recently a senior policy analyst at Education Sector, a Washington think tank largely funded by the Gates Foundation. Intrigued by the wave of books and articles about failing boys, Mead crunched some numbers, focusing narrowly on the question of school performance. The former Clinton Administration official concluded that “with a few exceptions, American boys are scoring higher and achieving more than they ever have before.”

In particular, Mead decided that boys from middle- and upper-income families–especially white families–are doing just fine. “The biggest issue is not a gender gap. It is these gaps for minority and disadvantaged boys,” she told me recently in the think tank’s conference room. Boys overall are holding their own or even improving on standardized tests, she said; they’re just not improving as quickly as girls. And their total numbers in college are rising, albeit not as sharply as the numbers of girls. To Mead, a good-news story about the achievements of girls and young women has been turned into a bad-news story about laggard boys and young men.

The more I probed, the more I realized that the subject of boys is a bog of sociology in which a clever researcher, given a little time, can unearth evidence to support almost any point of view. I also came to the sad realization that this field, like so many others, has been infiltrated by our left-right political noise machine. Our boys have become cannon fodder in the unresolved culture wars waged by their parents and grandparents. On one side, concern for boys is waved off as a mere “backlash against the women’s movement,” as two writers declared dismissively in the Washington Post last year. The opposing side views any divergence from the crisis theme as male-bashing feminism.

Then I came across a new report from the Federal Government: Uncle Sam’s annual attempt to paint a broad statistical portrait of the nation’s young people. In long rows of little numbers printed on page after page of tables, this report told a different story from that of either the woe bearers or the myth busters.

WHAT THE NUMBERS SAY

“America’s Children: Key National Indicators of Well-Being, 2007″ is the work of many agencies, from the Department of Justice to the Department of Education to the Bureau of the Census and beyond. It gathers a trove of data, and as I made my way through it, I concluded that there’s real substance to the boy crisis, and there have been good-faith reasons for sounding an alarm.

Statistics collected over two decades show an alarming decline in the performance of America’s boys–in some respects, a virtual free fall. Boys were doing poorly in school, abusing drugs, committing violent crimes and engaging in promiscuous sex. Young males lost ground by many behavioral indicators at some point in the 1980s and ’90s: sharp plunges on some scales, long erosions on others. I was forced to confront a fact that I had secretly known all along: that teens of 30 years ago–my generation–were the leading edge of an epidemic of thugs, dolts and cads.

No wonder so many writers began calling for change in the late 1990s. Reliable social-science data often lag a couple of years behind the calendar; it takes time to gather and compile a nation’s worth of numbers. Stories about social trends that you read today may be describing the reality of 2004 or 2005. The groundbreaking boy books were a response to statistics portraying the worst of a physical, mental and moral health crisis.

There’s more to the story, however. That downward slide has leveled off–and in many cases, turned around. Boys today look pretty good compared with their dads and older cousins. By some measures, our boys are doing better than ever.

The juvenile crime rate in 2005 (the most recent year cited in the report) was down by two-thirds from its peak in 1993. Other Justice Department statistics show that the population of juvenile males in prison is only half of its historic high. The number of high school senior boys using illegal drugs has fallen by almost half compared with the number in 1980. And the percentage of high school boys drinking heavily is now the lowest on record. When I was in high school, more than half of all senior boys told researchers they had downed five or more drinks in a row within the previous two weeks–a number that I have no trouble believing. By last year, that figure was fewer than 3 in 10.

Today’s girls are also doing well by these measures, but their successes in no way diminish the progress of the boys. In fact, together our kids are reversing one of the direst problems of the previous generation: the teen-pregnancy epidemic. According to the new report, fewer than half of all high school boys and girls in 2005 were sexually active. For the boys, that’s a decrease of 10 percentage points from the early 1990s. Boys who are having sex report that they are more responsible about it: 7 in 10 are using condoms, compared with about half in 1993. As a result, teen pregnancy and abortion rates are now at their lowest recorded levels.

What about school? Boys in the fourth, eighth and 12th grades all score better–though not dramatically better–on math tests than did the comparable boys of 1990. Reading, however, is a problem. The standardized NAEP test, known as the nation’s report card, indicates that by the senior year of high school, boys have fallen nearly 20 points behind their female peers. That’s bad, not because girls are ahead but because too many boys are leaving school functionally illiterate. Pollack told me of one study that found even the sons of college-educated parents had a 1 in 4 chance of leaving school without becoming proficient readers. In an economy increasingly geared toward processing information, an inability to read becomes an inability to earn. “You have to be literate in today’s world,” says Sommers. “We’re not going to get away with not teaching boys to read.”

Even here, though, there may be grounds for a hopeful outlook. Boys at the fourth- and eighth-grade levels are showing modest improvement in reading and now trail their female classmates by slightly smaller margins than before. If that’s a sign of improved teaching and parental focus on reading, then we ought to expect gains in the higher grades soon.

“I think it would be an error not to be optimistic,” says Michael Gurian, author of several books about raising boys. “But at the same time there is reason to worry.” He sketches the sinking trajectory of undereducated males as blue-collar jobs move to low-wage countries. Though definitive data on the dropout rate are as elusive as Bigfoot, there’s little question that a worrisome gap is opening between boys who finish high school and those who don’t. Boys with diplomas are now far more likely to go immediately to college than the boys of my era were. Solution: we need more boys with diplomas.

And that can be done. A generation of enlightened teaching and robust encouragement has awakened American girls to the need for higher education. Women now outnumber men in college by a ratio of 4 to 3, and admissions officers at liberal-arts colleges are struggling to find enough males to keep their classes close to gender parity. “We’ve done wonderfully with girls. Now let’s do the same for boys,” says Gurian. One way to start might be to gear advanced training to male-dominated occupations–already the case in many female-oriented fields. Schoolteachers and librarians (roughly 70% female) must go to college, but firefighters and police officers (pushing 90% male)? Not necessarily. Top executive secretaries are college educated; top carpenters may not be.

About the only scale on which today’s boys are faring dramatically worse than the boys of my era is the bathroom scale. When I was in high school in the late 1970s, roughly 1 boy in 20 was obese; today 1 boy in 5 is.

My favorite statistic seemed to sum up all the others: fewer boys today are deadbeats. The percentage of young men between 16 and 19 who neither work nor attend school has fallen by about a quarter since 1984. The greatest gains in this category have been made by black youths. In 1984, 1 out of 3 young black men ages 18 and 19 were neither in school nor working. That proportion has been cut almost in half, to fewer than 1 in 5.

Today’s boys may wear their pants too damned baggy and go around with iPod buds in their ears. They know everything about Xbox 360 and nothing about paper routes. I doubt that they slog to school through deep snow as I recall doing back before the globe warmed up. But judging from the numbers, they are pulling themselves up from the handbasket to hell.

SO WHERE DID WE GO RIGHT?

Unfortunately, it’s one thing to observe human behavior–count the crime reports and the teen births and the diplomas awarded and so on–but quite another to explain it. Popular science and the best-seller lists skip eagerly from one theory to the next, lingering with delight on the most provocative if not always the most plausible. A recent paper suggested that falling crime rates can be explained almost entirely by reduced lead exposure in childhood. Which was odd, because last year economist Steven Levitt’s best seller Freakonomics chalked up the improvement to legalized abortion, which, he theorized, cut the number of unwanted children prone to wind up as criminals.

Or take the teen-pregnancy numbers. It’s not enough to credit the virtues of responsibility and better sex education. Something racier is desired. According to some writers, fewer teens are getting pregnant because they’ve all switched to oral sex. Or maybe the phenomenon is due to a still unexplained decline in sperm counts.

But before we go dizzy on cleverness, let’s pull out Occam’s razor and consider a simple possibility: maybe our boys are doing better because we’re paying them more attention. We’re providing for them better; the proportion of children living in poverty is down roughly 2% from a spike in 1993. And we’re giving them more time. Parents–both fathers and mothers–are reordering their priorities to focus on caring for their kids. Several studies confirm this. Sociologists at the University of Michigan have tracked a sharp increase in the amount of time men spend with their children since the 1970s. Another long-range survey, reported by University of Maryland researchers, has asked parents since the 1960s to keep detailed diaries of their daily activities. In 1965 child-focused care occupied about 13 hours per week, the vast majority of it done by moms. By 1985 that had dropped to 11 hours per week as moms entered the workforce. The 2005 study found parents spending 20 hours a week focused on their kids–by far the highest number in the history of the survey. Both moms and dads had dramatically shifted their energies toward their kids.

Are there risks of overparenting boys? Sure. And here’s where the success of The Dangerous Book gets interesting, because it suggests that as parents spend more time with their sons, we may be reconnecting with the fact that the differences between boys and girls need not be threatening and that not all the lore of the past about how to raise boys was wrong.

Gregory Hodge is a good example of this return to tradition. He is principal at the Frederick Douglass Academy, a public school in Harlem. His school was one of three recently honored by the Schott Foundation for excellence in educating black male students–the most troubled cohort but also the group making the greatest progress in many areas. Hodge told me that when he arrived at the combination middle school and high school 11 years ago, the academy was already a great success–but the student body was 80% female. The new principal made it his business to recruit more boys. Today, of the academy’s 1,450 mostly poor and minority students, half are male. Yet the dropout rate remains virtually zero, and this year (like most years) every member of the senior class graduated and was college-bound. Every one.

Hodge says the secret is to reach boys before they get into trouble–he uses the academy’s basketball facilities to lure youngsters still in grade school. Once you have their attention, you must show them a world of possibilities that you genuinely believe they can achieve. “Young people are looking for validation,” he says. “You are important. You will be successful. We don’t talk about ‘if’ you go to college. Around here it’s ‘when’ you go to college.”

Frederick Douglass Academy students adhere to a strict dress code and accept rigid discipline. Many of them virtually live at the school, even on Saturdays, doing hours of homework, attending required tutorials if they lag behind, participating in dozens of sports and activities, from basketball to lacrosse and ballet to botany. “Everything a private school would offer a rich kid,” Hodge explains. But within this highly structured setting, the school recognizes that many boys need room to learn in their own way. “Some of the kids are hardheaded,” Hodge says in a gravelly Bronx roar. “That’s what makes a boy. They’ve gotta experiment, learn the hard way that his head won’t break concrete. Male students tend to want to find things out for themselves–so why don’t you use that as a teacher?

“I once had about 15 boys very close to dropping out,” the principal continues. “They weren’t into sports. I had to find something for them to get into. Finally I made a recording studio for the little meatheads, and they ran with that. All of them made it through to graduation. I’ll try anything–dance, chess, hydroponics, robotics–anything to let these kids know that this is a world they can fit into, where they can be successful.”

THE BASICS OF BOYHOOD

Nothing Hodge says is remotely ground-breaking or experimental–and that’s precisely the point. Only in recent decades have societies seriously begun to unlock the full potential of girls, but the cultivation of boys has been an obsession for thousands of years. “How shall we find a gentle nature which also has a great spirit?” Socrates asked some 2,500 years ago–essentially the same question parents ask today.

Ours is far from the first society to fear for its sons. Leo Braudy of the University of Southern California, in his 2003 book From Chivalry to Terrorism, noted recurring waves of anxiety. Europeans of the 18th century imagined that free trade and the death of feudalism would spell the end of honor and chivalry. Then, with the dawn of the Industrial Age, writers like John Stuart Mill worried that progress itself–with its speed and stress and short attention spans–would cause a sort of “moral effeminacy” and “inaptitude for every kind of struggle.” By the end of the 19th century, a manhood malaise permeated the entire Western world: in France it inspired Pierre de Coubertin to create the Olympic movement; in Britain it moved Robert Baden-Powell to found the Boy Scouts; in the U.S. it fueled a passion for the new sport of football and helped make a hero of rough-riding Theodore Roosevelt.

All these reforms shared a common impulse to return to the basics of boyhood–quests, competitions, tribal brotherhoods and self-discovery. There was a recognition that the keys to building a successful boy have remained remarkably consistent, whether a tribal chieftain is preparing a young warrior or a knight is training a squire or a craftsman is guiding an apprentice–or Gregory Hodge is teaching his students. Boys need mentors and structure but also some freedom to experiment. They need a group to belong to and an opponent to confront. As Gurian put it in The Wonder of Boys, they must “compete and perform well to feel worthy.”

The success of The Dangerous Book for Boys is one sign of a society getting in touch with these venerable truths. Nothing in the book suggests that boys are better than girls, nor does the book license destructive aggression. But it does exude the confidence of ages past that boys are to be treasured, not cured. “Is it old-fashioned?” the authors ask themselves about their book. “Well, that depends. Men and boys today are the same as they always were … You want to be self-sufficient and find your way by the stars.”

A TRIP TO BOY HEAVEN

If The Dangerous Book were a place, it would look like the Falling Creek Camp for Boys in North Carolina–a rustic paradise complete with a rifle range, nearby mountains to climb and a lake complete with swimming dock and rope swing. The choice of activities at the camp is dizzying, from soccer to blacksmithing, from kayaking to watercolors, but no pastime is more popular than building forts of fallen tree limbs and poking at turtles in the creek. Leave your cell phones, laptops and iPods at home.

There I met Margaret Anderson, a pediatric nurse from Nashville and a member of the faculty at Vanderbilt University. She works in the infirmary while her 11-year-old son Gage discovers the woods on multi-day pack trips. “I call this place Boy Heaven,” she says.

Falling Creek subscribes to a philosophy of “structured freedom,” which is essentially the same philosophy paying dividends among boys at the opposite end of the economic ladder at the Frederick Douglass Academy. It works across the board, says Anderson, and she wishes more of the boys she sees in her busy Nashville practice lived lives of structured freedom too.

“Whether it’s urban kids who can’t go outside because it’s too dangerous or the overscheduled, overparented kids at the other end of the spectrum–I’m worried that boys have lost the chance to play and to explore,” Anderson told me. Our society takes a dim view of idle time and casts a skeptical eye on free play–play driven by a boy’s curiosity rather than the league schedule or the folks at Nintendo. But listen to Anderson as she lists the virtues of letting boys run themselves occasionally.

“When no one’s looming over them, they begin making choices of their own,” she says. “They discover consequences and learn to take responsibility for themselves and their emotions. They start learning self-discipline, self-confidence, team building. If we don’t let kids work through their own problems, we get a generation of whiners.”

That made sense to me. As I watched the boys at Falling Creek do things that would scare me to death if my own son were doing them–hammering white-hot pieces of metal, clinging to a zip line two stories above a lake, examining native rattlesnakes–I didn’t notice many whining boys. Yates Pharr, director of Falling Creek, seemed to read my mind. “It’s the parents who have the anxieties nowadays, far more than the boys,” he said. “We’ve started posting photographs of each day’s activity on our website, and still I’ll get complaints if we don’t have a picture of every camper every day.”

Worrying about our boys–reading and writing books about them, wringing our hands over dire trends and especially taking more time to parent them–is paying off. The next step is to let them really blossom, and for that we have to trust them, give them room. The time for fearing our sons, or fearing for their futures, is behind us. The challenge now is to believe in them.

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Man reports his wife absconding- UAE Law

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 29, 2007

ABU DHABI — JUL 26: The Ministry of Labour (MoL) yesterday rejected the petition of an employer to declare his wife — also an employee at his company — as ‘absconding’, an official at the MoL has said.

Speaking to Khaleej Times, Abdul Wahed Al Blouky, a legal adviser at the MoL’s Dispute Department, said the ministry yesterday received this strange application.

The man wanted to file an absconding report against his wife as she had she refused to work at his company for some four months. The employer, an Iraqi, is the owner of a small Abu Dhabi-based company.

“The wife, a Syrian, had threatened her husband (the employer) to go to the court if he did not pay her the delayed financial rights (wage, overtime etc.). The man came to the MoL as he wanted to stop her from going to court,” said Al Blouky.

According to the labour law, a man cannot file an absconding report against his wife because, according to the law, he must be responsible for his wife and his family as the wife’s residency was on his sponsorship. Hence, the MoL rejected the case,” added Al Blouky.

After investigating the case, the ministry found that the wife had been at home and was not attending office for the last four months.

Meanwhile, the MoL will investigate the case in order to look into the wife’s (employee) claim over her delayed financial dues.

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Women Misuse DVA To Get Even With Spouses

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 29, 2007

Subheader: Legal Experts Claim That More And More Men Are Facing The Brunt As Their Better Halves File False Complaints Against Them

Tenzin Dechen, Hyderabad:  We have all heard of women who are abused by their husbands and in-laws.  It is for these unfortunate victims that the Protection of Women From Domestic Violence Act (DVA) was passed in October 2006.  However, it seems that the Act can be easily misused against men. 

Previously, the legal options available to victims of domestic violence were to file for divorce or register a case under Section 498-A of the IPC for dowry harassment.  The DVA includes not only marital relationships but also recognises any kind of ‘domestic relationship’. 

Under this Act, domestic violence is define as any act that harms or threatens to harm in sexual, physical, emotional, verbal, psychological and economic ways.  To help abused women and children, the government has appointed Protection Officers who can be approached after even a single act of domestic violence.  Says Advocae Venkatappa Reddy, “My client was the defendant in the first case under the Domestic Violence Act at Ranga Reddy court.  His wife made several allegations ranging from dowry harassment to physical abuse.  After a full length enquiry, the judge refused to accept the allegations.  The problem is that women can go to the Protection Officers even for the smallest problems and only after a full enquiry (trial) it can be known if the allegations are false.” 

A woman can grossly misuse the Domestic Violence Act by simply filing false complaints to harass her husband, says Advocate Jayashree Sarathy.  “I have a client from Chennai whose wife has filed several criminal and civil cases against him here in Hyderabad although she left him in 2002 after a year of marriage.  So he has no choice but to travel here for the hearings.” 

While in other cases the accused has to be proved guilty, it is the man who has to prove himself innocent in these cases.  “All these years we have been dealing with abused women so the laws are biased in their favor,” says Advocate Ajaya Kumari. 

According to retired High Court Judge B.S.A. Swamy, even Section 498-A is grossly misused.  “A lady filed a chargesheet against her husband for harassing her when he wasn’t even in the country.  While there are genuine victims of violence, in my experience, I have seen umpteen number of false cases which misuse the law,” says the retired judge.

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Promiscuous men’ fuel India HIV

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 29, 2007

Indian men cannot be trusted and their promiscuous behaviour is fuelling the country’s HIV epidemic, an MP has said. Women and Child Development Minister Renuka Chowdhury said Indian women should protect themselves from HIV/Aids by keeping condoms at home.

“Women need to get condoms to protect themselves, let the men be suspicious,” she said at an Aids forum for women.

About 2.5m people in India are infected with HIV/Aids – 40% of those are women, UN-backed government figures suggest.

India has the world’s third highest case load after South Africa and Nigeria.

Safe sex

Ms Chowdhury addressed the inaugural meeting of the National Women Forum of Indian Network of People Living with HIV/Aids on Monday.

AIDS IN INDIA

India’s HIV prevalence rate is now estimated to be 0.36%

Around 80,000 HIV-positive people receive free drugs

The government plans 250 Aids treatment centres by 2009

It hopes to carry out HIV tests on 42 million people by 2012

Around 40% of women have not heard of Aids

Figures compiled by UNAids and Reuters

“You cannot trust men or your husbands,” she said, adding that men may bring the virus home after sleeping with other women.

Officials say many women have become infected after their husbands visited prostitutes and that most women do not have the power to negotiate safe sex with their husbands.

Ms Chowdhury called for a change in mindset and criticised some state governments for refusing to implement sex education.

She suggested that large numbers of new infections were among young people.

“We are so embarrassed to ask about condoms… We are hypocrites. We have a one billion population and don’t want to talk about sex.”

India announced plans for a $2.8bn (£1.4bn) campaign to fight Aids over five years.

It hopes to increase condom use from 2.1bn in 2007 to 3.5bn by 2012.

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FemiNAZIs Rule India

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 28, 2007

Congress has set a precedence of taking most outrageous decision against the people’s will for their personal gains. Pratibha Patil has just been “elected” President of India by votes cast by national lawmakers and state legislators. Patil was hand-picked by Congressional Parliamentary leader Sonia Gandhi, a powerful feminist who rode into power on the back of Nehru-Gandhi family. As we all know Prime minister of India Mr.Manmohan Singh a puppet of Mrs. Sonia Gandhi, who has no power of his own, and nothing moves without Mrs.Sonia Gandhi Node.

After election of Prathibha Patil, it is sure that congress not only host puppets but they support people with criminal background too, as Patil is already implicated in a cover-up of a murder involving her brother, which has never been investigated. Congress explained it all away over the objections of the BJP: Spokesman Ravi Shankar Prasad said “There has been a persistent attempt to prevent a fair investigation into such a high-profile murder. Therefore, it is important that Patil must herself respond to these disturbing questions as these facts relate to her as also the resultant questions”. Patil has a legacy of financing radical feminist initiatives and lining the pockets of relatives, financed by the failure of her bank which she founded in 1973, Pratibha Patil established the bank in 1973 with herself as the chairperson, and with many members of her own family as its directors. She herself became a director for several terms. As for members of her family, they inter-changed, among themselves, the chairs of the Board of Directors in one ‘election’ after another. But while others changed places, Pratibha Patil continued as Founder Chairperson right till the demise of the bank.

Indian TV Aaj Tak puts out a detailed story by Manish Awasthi cataloguing the murder. In it, Aaj Tak takes viewers through the records of the mobile telephone company that establish that numerous calls were made between the two reported financiers of the murder and the brother of Pratibha Patil, G.N. Patil and Ulhas Patil – the calls were made on the day before the murder, on the day of the murder and on the day after the murder. The channel shows the exact times and duration of the calls from the records of the mobile phone company. Awasthi’s story contains a devastating interview of Raju Mali from within the jail. In September 2005, they had gone on an indefinite fast inside the jail. Raju Mali says in the interview that they had stopped taking food to protest against the Police for not arresting, for not even questioning the real culprits, ‘the persons named by Rajani Patil’. ‘We have simply been made sacrificial goats in the case while the real culprits are untouched.’

Still congress want Pratibha Patil as a President, because she is experienced in handling in such issues.

After election of Patil radical feminist gained more support for their radical thinking, as there are already fundamentalist feminazis in congress and ruling party who has criminal backgrounds, like Renuka chowdhury, Girija vyas, ranjan kumari. These fundamentalist in the name of empower women, breaking Indian family system, they adopted British police of divide and rule.

Their main Achievements are, after illegalization of the dowry system in 1961, it is crime to demand money from bride or her family at the time of marriage, still girl’s family give gifts, that also these fundamentalist added in dowry list, in the name of stridhan. IPC 498a is cover this 1961 dowry prohibition Act, under this law, accepting wedding gifts from the bride’s family dangerous. In India, acceptance of any gift from the bride’s family can easily be a set-up for a con game demanding a large “reverse dowry” subsequently extorted from the husbands family.

As per latest trend of modern women, 498a a tool to blackmail innocent Indian husbands, under this law there is proof of complaint required, just one word of women police will file charge sheet. This law is Non bail able and non compoundable, and burden of proof lies on innocent husband, who trying to prove false case as false for almost half of his life, without any relief, and at last he will be forced to compromise, without any damage or defamation against his wife, who misused law, a legal terrorist. As there is no clause to punish such misuser, even she is found to be misused this law. This is greatest achievement of these fundamentalist women organizations, even Women and child welfare minister boast herself, its time for men to suffer, and she admit openly that there is 98% misuse in this law.

Sonia Gandhi has awakened the Women Power in India. In the coming future 33% Women reservation bill have to be pass and this will happen in the present Loksabha till 2008. Our country is going through a revolution of Women Power and we will soon be observing an era which is totally Women Dominated. Now the time has come in which Women should be equally respected like Men, because according to my calculation Women are the future of our Country.

With reserve quota Indian feminists are now attempting to “reserve” 1/3 of all legislative seats for women on the theory that women make better representatives and empower women.

And latest one is, after implementation dowry prohibition act in 1983 there is steady rise in family problems which leads to family breakups, and after implementation of Domestic violence Act in October 2006, there is high rise in divorce rate, it’s almost touched 10% which was 4% in 1995.

Other than this there are many other ill deeds of fundamental feminazis are, Indian married women has right to sleep with her lover against her husband, and he has no right to object her. No right for Father, Husband has to pay alimony, even wife caught red-handed with her lover or has child from others. Even women left husband house her own and working, still law force husband to pay her. This list is too big to list here……

The fact that though Husbands are not dependent on others, has been found to be soft target of domestic violence through the world and their female partners had taken the un-due advantages of the same. No Government sponsored Social study center or any media shown any concern, why the Higher rate of Husbands ending their Life after marriage!!

There are many such protection laws for women but none for men, now Congress along with national commission for women proposed many more laws to empower women like sexual harassment, rape and reservations, after Pratibha Patil selection, they are sure sooner than later all will be implemented.

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Punjab and Haryana HC Bar boycotts judge

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 28, 2007

 CHANDIGARH: Punjab and Haryana High Court Bar Association Tuesday decided to boycott Justice Uma Nath Singh of Punjab and Haryana High Court for issuing orders to CBI to arrest a lawyer and sent him to assylum in Agra mental hospital.The judge had taken suo moto notice of a FIR registered against the lawyer by Chandigarh police on the complaint of harrassment lodged by his wife Sujata Sharma.

The Bar association has described the judge’s order  “anti-judicial” activities”, a charge considered very serious. The Bar Association will also request the Chief Justice Vijender Jain not to allot any court work to Justice Singh and start impeachment proceedings against him.

Tahar Singh had started a signature campaign seeking discussion on judge’s conduct. He was arrested by CBI and dispatched to Agra but a double bench of the High Court late at night stayed the single bench decision and granted bail to the lawyer.

Interestingly, the lawyers’s wife Sujata Sharma a lecturer in a local government college has completely denied that he had appeared before any judge even though she has filed a complaint in the woman cell of the Chandigarh police for domestic violence. She said that she had never alleged demand of dowry by her husband as mentioned in the order of Justice Uma Nath Singh.

The judge came into news recently over certain remarks he had made against Punjab Vigilance Bureau and a retired High ourt judge while hearing the bail application of Bharat Inder Singh Chahal media advisor to former Chief Minsiter Captain Amarinder Singh. While granting court’s protection to Chahal, he had stated in the open court that if VB tried to touch Chahal he would order flag march by army.

Justice Uma Nath Singh had also threatened to summon the retired judge for contempt of court and accused Punjab Advocate General H.S.Mattewal for being a ghost writer of the said article. He ordered Mattewal to tender an unconditional apology. He told the prosecution lawyers that he was advised by a brother judge not to start contempt proceedings agaisnt the retired judge because he keeps an ill health.

Anmol Rattan Singh Sidhu President of the Bar Association said that behaviour of the judge was uncalled for and they would take their case to a logical end.

As the proceedings to the day began on tuesday the lawyers had surrounded the judge’s room in the court and didn’t allow anyone to enter the court room. Even Chahal who was supposed to appear before Justice Uma Nath Singh for final order on his bail in Ludhiana city center scam was seen standing outside.

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Woman alleges mother-in-law killed baby daughter

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 25, 2007

New Delhi, July 25: A young mother in northwest Delhi Tuesday alleged that her mother-in-law had killed her new-born daughter. Police have registered a complaint against the mother-in-law.

Renu Jain, 23, told police Tuesday that her mother-in-law, Raj Bala, killed her 25-day-old daughter on Monday while giving the baby a massage.

“I was feeding my daughter when my mother-in-law came and took the baby to the other room. After a few minutes the baby fell sick and had to be admitted to a nearby hospital. My baby’s condition deteriorated and she died in the evening,” Renu said in her police complaint.

She alleged her mother-in-law had “done something” to the baby when she took her to the other room. Her in-laws immersed the baby’s body in the river Yamuna in a hurry early Tuesday.

Renu had married Vijender Jain in 2005 and said her relationship with her husband was bitter because of her in-laws.

Acting on her complaint, police recovered the body of the baby after several hours of search in the river and sent it for post mortem.

“We are waiting for the post mortem report. We will register a case and take action accordingly,” a senior police official said.

“We have asked her husband and in-laws to cooperate till the investigations are over,” he added.

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Sexual harassment law at workplace: Delhi HC

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 25, 2007

 New Delhi, July 22: Expressing concern over the absence of a legislation to tackle the cases relating to sexual harassment of working women by their senior officers, the Delhi High Court has observed that “it is a matter of deep concern” and needs to be curbed through effective measures.

On Friday Justice Kailash Gambhir stayed the suspension order against a woman employee of the Central government, who had lodged a complaint of sexual harassment against her two senior directors from the Electronics and Computer Software Export Promotion Council three years ago.

“The misery, agony and trauma of such working women who are sexually harassed play havoc in their lives,” Justice Gambhir observed.

“Sexual harassment of working women that too at the hands of the high-profile officers is a matter of deep concern and needs to be curbed through some effective measures,” he said.

“Regrettably there is still not (a) tangible legislation that can tackle the problem of sex submissions of the woman’s counsel A K Behra that she was put under suspension after she had refused to withdraw the complaint against her two senior directors.

In September 2004, Kaur had alleged that she was sexually harassed by her senior colleagues.

“It is a settled legal position that normally courts do not interfere at a stage of framing of charge or suspension of a delinquent official, but looking into the peculiarity of the facts and circumstances, I consider that the suspension order deserved to be stayed, the court said.

Behra contended that the chairman of the council had failed to take action against the directors despite memos issued by the Ministry of Communication and Information Technology after finding prima facie that the directors had misused their official positions.

The counsel further contended that to oust the victim from the council, the officers had also filed false criminal cases against her.

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India: Corrupt Radical Feminist President Appointed

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 25, 2007

David R. Usher

Pratibha Patil has just been “elected” President of India by votes cast by national lawmakers and state legislators. Patil, was hand-picked by Congressional Parliamentary leader Sonia Ghandi, a powerful feminist who rode into power on the back of Nehru-Ghandi family, and who has been the woman jiggling knobs behind the curtain of the Prime Minister’s office for many years.

How Patil could have passed the “smell test” points to the nature of corrupt politics in India. Patil has a legacy of financing radical feminist initiatives and lining the pockets of relatives, financed by the failure of her bank which she founded in 1973, which actually managed to achieve a negative net worth.

Patil is also implicated in a cover-up of a murder involving her brother, which has never been investigated. Congress explained it all away over the objections of the BJP: Spokesman Ravi Shankar Prasad said “There has been a persistent attempt to prevent a fair investigation into such a high-profile murder. Therefore, it is important that Patil must herself respond to these disturbing questions as these facts relate to her as also the resultant questions”.

She is in trouble for making a rather hefty feminist prevarication — claiming that the Indian tradition of Purdah (covering the body) was created to “protect women from Mughai invaders” , as justification for ending the practice.

Indian bloggers have collected a fair amount of information on the corruption that led to this rubber-stamp appointment.

Patil’s “election” is already being questioned by Indian pundits and the Wall Street Journal , and with massive justification. Young, educated Indians who supported another candidate are tremendously displeased. One activist said, “We, the youth of India, feel cheated by the political establishment”

India, a nation featuring a world-reknowned marriage culture, was perhaps even strengthened by illegalization of the dowry system in 1961. Yet, despite what radical feminists say, dowry is rarely practiced in India today. Like their American teachers, Indian feminists pretend dowry abuses are hiding under every other rock because it scares politicians into doing their bidding.

When mixed with Indian dowry laws, which extend liability to the husband’s family and assets, the accused has the burden to prove that the alleged act did not occur. It is widely known that Section 498 is widely abused , yet no-one in the legislature has lifted a finger to do anything about it (neither has the U.S. Congress addressed the widespread abuses of VAWA).

Under 498a, suicide or unnatural death of a woman during the first seven years of marriage is deemed a dowry death. Any complaint of violence can send the husband and his entire family to jail for years while the case is heard. Materialistic women and their families use these laws to extort monies from the husband and his family. Upon their release, a divorce ensues.

These laws also make accepting wedding gifts from the bride’s family dangerous. In the West, families often give gifts of property or cash to the wedding couple. In India, acceptance of any gift from the bride’s family can easily be a set-up for a con game demanding a large “reverse dowry” subsequently extorted from the husbands family.

As in America (where there are no federal protections against abuse of domestic violence laws), provisions requiring punishment of those who give dowry are not enforced against the bride’s family.

Like American feminists, who pretend that America is still living in a pre-19th-amendment era, India’s feminists pretend that today’s highly educated women are seen as “burdens”, thus justifying enactment and rigid enforcement of radical laws permitting feminist financial and social predation.

Indian feminists are now attempting to “reserve” 1/3 of all legislative seats for women on the theory that women make better representatives. We have yet to see a woman legislator in India who goes beyond destroying marriage in India. A fine example of this is the 498a domestic violence law passed in 1983, featuring mandatory arrest without investigation, and prosecution without bail.

These are the products of Nehru-Ghandi feminism. Pratibha Patil is a very dangerous woman. Women’s groups are already lining up to meet with her.

Recent changes in India strongly predict it will suffer similar consequences the United States experienced after “going feminist” in the 1960’s. Feminism is always followed by rapid increases in divorce, social violence, crime, child abuse and neglect, and an economy sandbagged by tremendous social expenditures.

India, which is not as rich as America or as politically stable, cannot withstand the consequences which are presently bringing America to its political knees.

Like the political elite in America, Indian politicians insist on pursuing a highly destructive path of faux patriarchy without regard for the tremendous human wreckage and economic destruction that always follows in the wake of feminism.

But the consequences in India may be far more severe: young Muslim men driven out of society in India are perhaps more likely to end up terrorists than simple drug dealers or street criminals.

Those who wish to end terrorism need to be working to end the reign of world feminism as their highest priority. Feminism has clearly stated its intent to destroy marriage and place men in peonage to feminist government. This is the primary driver of hate of western culture by hard-right muslims and their conscripts.

I am not saying that America is responsible for terrorism. I am pointing out that an unnecessary situation of tremendous polarity exists between hyper-feminist societies and hyper-patriarchal cultures. The collision of values has resulted in an expanding “world warm war” we all know is tremendously expensive and perhaps impossible to fight at any cost because it is simply impossible to secure every square inch of the planet.

Both the West and East are wrong. It is our responsibility to end the feminist war on marriage and religion – now over forty five years old. We must reform laws in America, restore marriage values, end no-fault divorce, reform the Violence Against Women Act, and require shared parenting when divorce is necessary. When we have accomplished these tasks, much of the reason driving Muslim fanaticism will evaporate.

Clearly, world peace cannot possibly occur so long as we continue exporting radical feminism in the name of “Democracy”.

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David R. Usher is Senior Policy Analyst for the True Equality Network and President of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children, Missouri Coalition

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Couple arrested for murdering and burying sons at home in Gujarat

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 25, 2007

GODHRA: A man and his wife were arrested for allegedly murdering two of their teenaged sons and burying them inside their house in a village in Panchmahals district, police said on Saturday.The incident occurred in Palla village when the accused Nanji Rawat and his second wife allegedly killed the two boys and buried their bodies in their own house around 20 days ago, police said.

The two were arrested on Friday and were taken to their house where they had buried the bodies police said, adding a team of forensic officials dug up the spot and recovered two bodies.

According to police, the accused and his second wife took the extreme step as she did not want to take care of her step-children after their mother died a few months ago.

Police is unsure as to how the two boys were murdered and said that more would be known only after post-mortem was conducted on the exhumed remains.

Officials said the accused had some days ago lodged a police complaint that their two sons Ganpath (13) and Sampat (19) were missing.

However, their uncle sensed something wrong and told the police that he suspected Nanji’s intentions.

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Case filed against four for threatening a dowry-victim

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 25, 2007

 Husband demands Rs. four lakh, already charged under IPC

The Vakola Police Station registered a case against Kadir Abdul Sayed for making threatening and abusing calls and his friends as they were harassing Kadir’s wife for money.
“Kadir and Zareen (name changed to protect the identity) got married on December 4, 2005. Kadir at that time was working with Wipro in Saudi-Arabia as a computer engineer. Both of them had stayed there for about 6 months when things were going smoothly but after when they came back, the in-laws started harassing Zareen for dowry,” said Anil Kharade, Senior police inspector of Vakola Police station.
“When things became worse, Zareen and her family lodged a complaint on January 12, 2007, with the Vakola Police station against her husband Kadir Abdul Sayed, father-in-law Abdul Husain Sayed, Aunty Shubedabee Husain Sayed, Mother-in-law Aasra Abdul Sayed, sister-in-law Urrunissa Abdul Sayed and brother-in-law Rizwan alias Dustagir Abdul Sayed,” said Kharade.
“However, till the time the police could arrest them the sessions court on January 19 granted Anticipatory Bail Application. They were charged under 498, 406 and 34 of Indian Penal Code (IPC) Act. The case is still in the court for hearing. In the above matter we have filed the charge sheet on June 13,” said Kharade. “But now this person has started harassing her again for the money. Now he wants four lakh Rupees. He along with his three friends threatened her to pay them or they will make her life miserable and will throw acid on her face. Till now they have threatened her two to three times,” said Kharade.
“The complainant however claims that her husband has also blocked her email addresses and sends weird massages and harasses her. But that angle still needs to be investigated. According to her complaint Kadir along with his friends comes to the bus stop from where she catches a bus for her office and threatens her that if they don’t fulfill their demand they will kill her. So not taking any chance, two women constables accompany her to the bus stop,” said Kharade.
“After all the primary investigation we have registered   cases against Kadir and three of his friends namely Yusuf Shaikh, Musafar and Alli-ulla. They are booked under 509,387 and 34 of IPC. We are tracing him and we will  arrest him very soon as we have a reference of the previous case. We will surely be able to take his custody and then we  ill investigate further,” Kharade added.

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HC directs CBI to send lawyer to Agra Mental Hospital

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 25, 2007

Chandigarh, Jul 23 (PTI) In an unusual order, the Punjab and Haryana High Court today asked the CBI to get a local lawyer admitted in Agra’s Mental Hospital after taking him into custody and probe his matrimonial dispute with his wife to ensure fair investigation.
“In view of serious nature of allegations regarding beating and torture of the complainant and her children by the accused (Tahar Singh, Advocate) in a barbaric manner which only an insane person would do and further that, on enquiry, the Court is given to understand that even in the Bar, his conducts are aggressively violent, this Court is, prima facie, of the opinion, that accused is a worst case of mental disorder,” Justice Uma Nath Singh said in his order.

The court directed the CBI SP here “to immediately take Tahar in custody, and take him away from Chandigarh to admit him in the Mental Hospital, Agra for proper treatment” to ensure the safety of Tahar’s wife and her children.

“It is also learnt from the Bar that the accused creates nuisance and commotion wherever he goes with the help of some anti-social elements on the strength of some vested interests, who finance him in doing so,” the court observed.

CBI was directed to take over the probe of the case “as the accused is a big nuisance in Chandigarh and the police appears to be playing soft in this case as it has recorded offences only under sections 498-A and 506 of IPC,” the court directed, adding, as far as possible, the interrogation of the accused, as directed, should be done only at Delhi or Agra.

The judge directed that the CBI shall use “modern devices during investigation to find out the connections of the petitioner with anti-social elements and the vested interests who are misusing him during this spell of insanity”. PTI

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Udupi tops the list of AIDS patients in Karnataka

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 24, 2007

Udupi July 24: There are 11,130 persons living with the deadly HIV/AIDS in Karnataka, state Health Minister R Ashok informed the Legislative Council.

In his written reply to Mr D Madegowda (Cong), the minister said the government had taken measures to create awareness among the people on the disease, for which an effective drug was yet to be  developed.

As many as 16 Anti Retroviral Therapy (ART) centres have been opened in various places and another 23 centres would be set up, he said.

Udupi district topped the list of AIDS patients with 1812,  followed by Dakshina Kannada (1748), Belgaum (1664), Bangalore Urban (1550), Davanagere (1017), Dharwad (749), Gulbarga (556) and Mysore (318).

Districts of Kodagu (11), Chamarajanagar (13), Bidar (25), Bijapur (28) and Hassan (39) recorded the least number of AIDS cases, he added.

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Domestic violence: Live-ins speak out

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 24, 2007

HYDERABAD: Even as live-in relationships gain in acceptance, the flip side seems to be a growing trend of domestic violence among such couples.Such cases have now started coming out in the open in the city with these battered women approaching counselling centres for relief. Women who come to these centres, are being advised to approach the protection officers to file cases against their partners under the Protection of Women From Domestic Violence Act, 2005.

NGOs in the city say at least 10 cases of domestic violence have been reported from women who are in live-in relationships. According to Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005, violence inflicted by male partners on women who are in live-in relationships too is considered as domestic violence.

“We come across women who are educated, who have opted for live-in relationships, suffer domestic violence and yet, hesitate to complain about it,” says K Anuradha, voluntary counsellor, Andhra Pradesh Coalition Of Gender Justice (APCGJ). Many of the cases only get reported when some well-wishers take the initiative to inform it formally or informally to an NGO.

As per the Act, the state can also offer protection to women who were abused “in marriage or through any relationship in the nature of marriage,” if the case is brought to the notice of a protection officer or project director. A women or any citizen concerned can approach the protection officer or programme director who is assigned for each district in every state. Why don’t these women who were once bold enough to give the thumbs down to legal or formal marriage, break away from their abusers? “In most of the cases, I have come across women who are scared that they will be blamed for the failure of the relationship,” says N Beena, director, Asmita resource centre for women. Till now, Beena has come across more than four such cases.

Most counsellors feel that the reasons for domestic violence in live-in relationships are similar to those that married women face. “The fights could be centred around issues in the work places as well, since many of them work together as well,” said Beena.

A woman complained that her partner’s professional jealousy was the cause of violence at home. The couple worked in the same company and shared almost the same responsibilities. Often, the victims have regretted the decision to opt for live-in relationships. Many women feel that men perceive a live-in relationship as a traditional set up and maintain the power relations which are usually in place in a marriage. “At some point, I felt that live-in a relationship is a flexible and progressive set up. Not any more. My partner always dominated me,” a victim said. She had called up for counselling at the helpline offered by an NGO, Bhoomika.

Some of the victims who have opted for live-in relationships, think it is better than marriage. However, there are some others who feel that the problem lies with the partner and not the set-up.

“There were times I used to blame myself for taking a radical step like living with my partner without marrying because nobody in the neighbouring houses recognised us as a married couple and offered any kind of help. But now, I think that the problem was not with the set up but the partner who abused me,” a victim said.

However, the fact that counselling offered by the centres are often at a personal level, is some kind of solace for the victims. “There were times when I used to talk to the couple myself. Especially, if the complaint is through a third person’s narrative,” Beena said.

Generally, the counsellors tell the women to forget blaming themselves and encourage them to approach protection officers so that they can take their case to the court. In the cases that have come to NGOs, the women partners preferred to call off the relationship rather than approach the court for help.

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NCW to create database on divorces

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 23, 2007

New Delhi, July 19: With an aim to study the growing trend of divorce cases in the country, the National Commission for Women (NCW) will undertake a survey to collect data in this regard.The NCW will next month hold a meeting with the state women’s commissions to chalk out a plan to carry out a survey and create a database on divorces.

“A meeting of NCW and representatives of various state women’s commissions, scheduled in the first week of August here, will discuss the matter,” NCW chairperson Girja Vyas told.

Pointing out that a greater number of urban women were now applying for divorce, she cited “growing intolerance levels on the part of both the sexes” and legal awareness of women as the main reasons behind the trend.

“Problems arise in both love marriages and arranged marriages and urban women are now more aware of their legal rights regarding divorce,” she said.

However, a sizeable percentage of women in rural India did not possess enough awareness and also faced family pressure against divorce, she said. Economic dependency on their in-laws also deterred women in the villages from opting for divorce, Vyas said.

Domestic violence against a woman was a strong ground for her to apply for and get divorce, Vyas said, while adding that the law against the social evil was a strong reminder for men to refrain from violence. “It will act as a `lakshman rekha’,” she said.

However, divorce was the last resort of a woman and that is why courts and even the NCW held mediation and counselling sessions for couples, Vyas said.

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Hindu woman performs last rites of husband

Posted by 498A_Crusader on July 23, 2007

Patna, July 23: A Hindu woman from Bihar has broken age-old Hindu traditions by performing the last rites of her husband, a ritual usually done by male members of the family, describing him as her dearest friend.

Geetu Avinash, in her 50s, Sunday performed the ‘shradh ceremony’ (ritual performed after a death) of her husband Avinash Kumar at Ara, about 60 km from here.

Kumar died of cancer July 10 in a Kolkata hospital. Geetu lit the pyre of her husband in Kolkata in the presence of her brothers-in-law, their sons and other relatives.

“I performed the last rites of my husband because of my love for him,” she told IANS Sunday. She said her relationship with Avinash was more than a “husband-wife relationship”. “We were more like true friends.”

She also placed a copy of the book “Train to Pakistan”, authored by Khushwant Singh, at the ‘shradh ceremony’ in place of religious books.

“Avinash wanted to read the book when he was battling cancer but I could not fulfil his last wish as the book was not available,” she said.

After performing the last rites in Kolkata, she returned to Ara to perform all other rituals.

“I performed all the rituals to show the world that a woman can do everything,” she said.

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