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Legal nuances ‘free’ dowry death accused

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 18, 2008

MUMBAI: Legal technicality came in the way of justice.

A sessions court on Monday acquitted four accused in a dowry death case because the victim’s dying declaration was not recorded by a special executive officer (SEO).

Rita Baricha, 23, married Hemant in 1997. She gave birth to two daughters. In the first information report (FIR) recorded by the investigating officer, Rita had said that Hemant, her father-in-law Dhanji, her
mother-in-law Madhu and brother-in-law Naresh taunted her regularly for being unable to bear a male child. The entire family lived in a Kanjurmarg chawl.

In her statement, Rita had said that her husband accused her of misbehaving with her in-laws. He also blamed her for ignoring household duties. When she met her parents in Andheri on September 11, 2000, they advised her to keep her husband happy instead of picking up fights with him. 

The next day she had a quarrel with her mother-in-law. While they were arguing, her husband allegedly slapped her and told her to set herself on fire because she had failed to bear a male child. She was doused in kerosene, allegedly by her mother-in-law, and given a matchbox too. Rita apparently set herself on fire inside the bathroom. When she realised she was burning she ran out of the bathroom, according to the prosecution. A neighbour, Sandeep Kadam, wrapped her in a blanket and took her to Rajawadi Hospital. Rita had suffered 85 per cent burns and she died on September 18, 2000.
Special executive officer Suvarna Karanje told the court that she had asked her ‘worker’ to record Rita’s statement. She later signed the declaration, which did not have Rita’s signature.

“The court accepted the first dying declaration (recorded in the FIR). The second one was not accepted because the SEO had not recorded it herself,” said additional public prosecutor Kiran Raykar.

Rita’s father Laxman Baria had filed an affidavit with the police about her daughter being harassed by her in-laws for a male child. But he later told the court that only her mother-in-law (she died during trial) had harassed her and not the other accused.

“If Baria had supported the prosecution, it would have corroborated Rita’s statement in the FIR which was accepted by the court. He backtracked possibly because his two grandchildren live with Rita’s in-laws,” said Raykar.

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More women now raise voice against dowry

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 18, 2008

The number of cases reported in the past five years has almost doubled

//Yea TRUE, but out of all 98% are False, As per Renuka Chowdhury – eDitor

MUMBAI: The number of dowry-related cases being reported in Mumbai has almost doubled in the past five years. Around 368 dowry cases were registered in Mumbai in 2007 compared with 193 in 2003.

For a cosmopolitan city like Mumbai, the increase in the number of dowry-related offences comes as a surprise. And the reason cited most often is that more women are now refusing to tolerate harassment for dowry by in-laws and spouses.
The concept that originated in the upper-caste families as wedding gifts to the bride from her family gradually became the most dreaded part of women’s lives. But they are now increasingly raising their voice against the menace.

“Women are now aware about the options they have to stand against any kind of violence against them,” said Nirmala Samant-Prabhavalkar, former chairperson of the state women’s commission.

According to her, the scenario began changing ever since the post of the dowry prohibition officer was created at local police stations. “Earlier, such cases were sent to the collector’s office and then came to the police station. However, now the victim does not have to run from pillar to post with her complaint,” Prabhavalkar said.

Joint commissioner of police (law and order) KL Prasad agrees. “Women are now refusing to tolerate such harassment, and several NGOs and other bodies providing guidance to them are proving helpful,” he said.

According to Prasad, the city police are being sensitised to tackle such issues with urgency and empathy. “We are following this procedure of free registration where a police officer will not refuse to register a case unless it is completely unimportant. Dowry harassment cases are treated with an attitude to support the victims,” said Prasad.

He said policemen across the city are also undergoing a sensitising programme for the past few months. The programme also trains them in tackling women related cases.

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Parents-in-law can’t be forced to maintain daughter-in-law: SC

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 17, 2008

New Delhi: The latest round of `Saas-Bahu ki ladai’ has gone decisively in favour of the motherin-law. The Supreme Court has ruled that a woman, if neglected by her husband, cannot eye her
mother-in-law’s property for getting maintenance.
Maintenance of a married woman is her husband’s personal obligation and the property in her mother-in-law’s name can never be the subject matter of the obligation to maintain a daughter-in-law even after the death of her husband, said a Bench comprising Justices S B Sinha and V S Sirpurkar.

A woman lawyer, who had filed several cases against her parents-in-law in Chincholi, Karnataka, had even taken recourse to litigation to see that their property was auctioned for getting the maintenance she was entitled to from their son.
Disapproving the extra-legal arguments taken by her and deprecating the trial court and the Karnataka High Court overstretching the law as well as their jurisdiction to go by her
pleadings, the Bench said a woman could seek attachment of properties only if her husband had a share in it.
This means, if the parents-inlaw’s properties were self-acquired and not inherited, then their daughter-in-law could institute suits seeking attachment of those properties which stood in the name of her husband and not against those owned by his parents.
Referring to the plea of the daughter-in-law, Sonalben, the Bench said she might be entitled to maintenance from her husband and the decree in her suit could only be against his properties.
“The decree, if any, must be executed against her husband and only his properties could be attached for that but not of her mother-in-law,” said Justice Sinha, writing the judgment for the
Bench. Referring to the HC order, which was challenged by mother-in-law Vimlaben, the apex court said it suffered from “total non-application of mind” and was “wholly unsustainable”.
“The said orders might have been passed only on consideration that Sonalben is a harassed lady, but the fact that Vimlaben is also a much harassed lady was lost sight of (by the HC),” the Bench said.

Directing release of the attached properties to Vimlaben, the court directed Sonalben to give Rs 50,000 to her mother-in-law as cost of litigation.


As a general guideline to the trial courts, the Bench said: “Sympathy or sentiment, as is well known, should not allow the court to have any effect in its decision-making process. Sympathy or
sentiment can be invoked only in favour of a person who is entitled to it. It should never be taken into consideration as a result whereof the other side would suffer civil or evil consequences.”


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Bitten by wife, cop seeks cover!

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 14, 2008

A cop of the ADGP cadre has sought the help of the Jeevan Bimanagar police against threats from his wife!
Sushanth Mahapatra, ADGP, Directorate of Civil Rights Enforcement wing filed a complaint before the Jeevan Bimanagar police on March 9 alleging that his wife, Sadhana (44) bit him on the left arm and cheek and attempted to stab him.
The sources told Deccan Herald that the couple has a son, aged around 30, working in the Income Tax Department in IAS cadre; and, a daughter, aged around 20, pursuing technical course. Sadhana stayed with her daughter at KPWD quarters, while Sushanth stayed with his son and his father who is a retired principal of a college at Attiguppe. The couple parted ways after Sadhana came to know about ‘other activities’ of her husband.
Sushanth wanted to see his daughter and went to Sadhana’s house on March 7. Sadhana didn’t allow him inside the house which led to the clash. The police were trying to unearth details of Sushanth’s ‘other activities’ which caused separation.

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Narcissists Modern Indian Woman?
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TRUE Colour of Media and Women
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The Indian GenderBiased Domestic Violence Act
Indian Mens Legal Torture
PRE NUPITAL CONTRACT
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cruelty-to-wife cases can’t be settled out of court

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 13, 2008

MUMBAI: A high court bench comprising Chief Justice Swatanter Kumar, Justice Dhananjay Chandrachud and Justice J P Devadharowever has ruled that cruelty-to-wife cases can’t be settled out of court. However, the three judges also held that an HC can definitely exercise its power under its inherent jurisdiction, and quash a 498-A complaint in the larger interests of justice, to maintain matrimonial harmony and to prevent abuse of the legal process. The court specified the principles of criminal jurisprudence that need to be followed.

The judgment essentially says that a husband or his family facing a charge under 498-A of inflicting physical or mental cruelty on the wife cannot effect a settlement with her even if the two have patched up or the woman has agreed to forgive her husband or if the charges are based on flimsy pretexts to begin with and prima facie false. This means the husband can get arrested and even convicted and sent to jail for up to three years.

But there could be a way out from the legal quagmire that a husband may find himself in once a 498-A case is slapped on him. For that, however, only the HC can help. The HC has to be moved for quashing of the first information report (FIR), probe or criminal proceedings. The judgment has held that a HC has the power to quash such non-compoundable offences so as “to secure the ends of justice”. However, the judges also held that quashing of a complaint has to be on the basis of the facts of each case and the power must be “sparingly used”.

The 102-page verdict said, “An offence of cruelty under IPC 498-A is not merely a crime between husband and wife but a crime against society, and therefore the parties themselves cannot compound the offence.” The judges have, significantly, also held that not just offences under 498-A, but also other offences such as murder, rape, attempt to murder and causing grievous hurt—which are not specifically mentioned in the law as ‘compoundable’ offences—cannot be settled between the complainant and the accused. Section 320 of the CrPC lists offences that can be settled between parties at any stage of the prosecution.

The issue was referred to a full bench by a single judge of the Bombay high court who had to decide on an appeal filed by a Solapur-based husband Abasaheb Honmane who, after being held guilty of an aggravated form of bigamy and sentenced to jail for five years, had sought the leave of the court to compound the offence and also to set aside his conviction.

A full bench is normally formed in exceptional circumstances when there are conflicting judgments of two or more division benches. Here, it was a single judge who felt that a division bench judgment was not the correct interpretation of law and hence referred it to the Chief Justice since it was an important law point that needed to be settled.

Besides, before the court there were ten other similar cases on the question of compounding of offences such as robbery, dowry harassment, kidnapping, causing serious hurt with weapons, causing a miscarriage without the woman’s consent and so on. In each case, the prayer was that the FIR should be quashed, as the complainant had agreed to settle the matter. Most of these cases had arisen out of disputes in a matrimonial relationship.

The Chief Justice, who wrote the judgment for the bench, noted, “No statute can provide for all situations when the legislature enacts a law.” He said this as one of the points of reference was also whether the high court had the inherent powers to quash or compound complaints when this was not spelt out clearly in any law, including the CrPC, which is the procedural Bible for the criminal law courts.

The full bench held that Section 482 of the CrPC which speaks of the court’s “inherent power” to pass any order to “meet the ends of justice” has “intentionally” been worded widely by the legislature to ensure a larger impact on the procedural law governing investigations and criminal trials. “The inherent powers of the high courts are not meant to be static just like the law is not static and develops and varies according to the progress of time and need of society.”

The HC noted that until recently even a complaint of cheque bouncing was not compoundable but the government recently amended the law to allow parties to go in for “out-of-court settlements”.

Amit Desai, an expert defence counsel, said, “There is a need for criminal law to be amended to make an offence such as Section 498-A compoundable. It is time for the legislature to consider a change in the law since these are private disputes.”

The legislature has provided an alternative statute—the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005, to provide greater safeguards and protection to women by providing for a chance of “resettlement of matrimonial home and relationship prior to actual registration of crime under Section 498-A of IPC”.

But the legislature still did not make the Section 498-A offence compoundable. “While interpreting and implementing the law, legislative wisdom has to be given preference,” the judgment said, adding, “It can very well be presumed that the legislature, while enacting a law, is aware of the difficulties faced in implementation of such a law.”

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Biased TOI published, Hubby can be jailed despite patch-up, Instead cruelty-to-wife cases can’t be settled out of court


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On Women’s Day, do spare a thought for men

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 6, 2008

Ahmedabad, March 5 After suffering in silence for long, husbands are on the march. And the last one to join their ranks is an NRI businessman who hails from Bhavnagar. Sixty-nine-year-old Deepakbhai Patel (name changed) is involved in a bitter matrimonial dispute. Back in Gujarat, his wife has filed around 70 cases of dowry and domestic violence and property in Bhavnagar and Ahmedabad. The charges are all trumped up, he says, the purpose just to teach him a lesson. That was when an acquaintance in Kuwait told him about an Ahmedabad-based pan-India organisation of men persecuted by disgruntled spouses.

Deepakbhai says: “The Akhil Bharatiya Patni Atyachaar Virodhi Sangh (ABPAVS) gave me strength. I met many men who were similarly wounded, whose wives had lodged frivolous cases against them. I found the resolve to soldier on.”

Dalsukh Patel, a US-based NRI businessman, is in a similar quandary. His wife has filed a dowry case against him and is even in possession of his house in Ahmedabad. “I have to live in a dharamsala, my own house is out of bounds for me. But I will fight to get my name cleared. The support of the Sangh had toughened my resolve,” he says.

The ABPAVS, a organisation of tortured husbands founded in 1994, has seen a small but steady rise in the number of NRIs joining its fold. Of its 32,000 members, 13 are from abroad. Three joined last year, 10 this year.

Dashrath Devda, founder president of the ABPAVS, who was inspired from his own traumatic experience after his wife filed a false dowry case against him, says: “The number of NRI men has definitely increased. There are many more who still have to come out of the closet. In our society, it is not easy for a man to say that he gets beaten by his wife.”

The ABPAVS members does not only include men, but also mothers and sisters of such men.

“The anti-dowry legislation is so clearly loaded in favour of women that men have little chance of fighting it,” Devda says.

“Dowry is a big problem, but men being falsely implicated in it is no small issue.”

The domestic violence law can so easily by misused by a vengeful wife. “We have among our members IAS and IPS officers, doctors, engineers and people from all walks of life. The problem of being exploited by wives is far graver than it is believed to be,” he says.

Membership of the organisation comes after a background check. Men with a history of alcoholism, or violently behaviour are usually shown the door.

Complete personal details of the members, including the cases filed against them, is kept.

To create more awareness and sensitivity in the society about their plight, the ABPAVS is holding a demonstration where over 250 members are expected to attend on March 8 — International Women’s Day.

As Devda, who was a driver by profession, says: “The laws right now are like Maruti Esteem for the women. At least have a small run-down Maruti 800 for the men.”

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A THOUGHT for ALL FUTURE UNMARRIED MALES
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WOMEN AGAINST MISUSE OF WOMEN-PROTECTION LAWS

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 6, 2008

Mothers and Sisters Initiative (MASI)

& All India Forgotten Women

Invites you to an

All Women National Protest on the occasion of

International Women’s Day 2008

WOMEN AGAINST MISUSE OF WOMEN-PROTECTION LAWS

Every 20 minutes an innocent woman is arrested under IPC Section 498A

just because she is related to a man!

Aren’t mothers and sisters women ? Don’t they deserve a life of dignity and respect?

Does penalizing innocent women under false cases bring justice to genuinely abused women?

Does women’s empowerment mean destroying family harmony and creating a fatherless society?

Is protection of women’s rights synonymous with gross violation of basic human rights?

Is legal terrorism the solution to all women’s problems?

In order to address these burning questions, we invite you to join us at

Jantar Mantar, New Delhi

8th March 2008, 11-1 p.m.

Contact: 9810452017 (Dr. Anupama), 09704683163 (Challa Uma), 9810611534 (Swarup)

Supported by :

www.savefamily.org,

www.asha-kiran.org

www.mynation.net

www.protectindianfamily.org

http://www.saveindianfamily.org



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Narcissists Modern Indian Woman?
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Reconciliation
TRUE Colour of Media and Women
My Vision My Dream
The Indian GenderBiased Domestic Violence Act
Indian Mens Legal Torture
PRE NUPITAL CONTRACT
Think before get marry Indian Women

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Dowry demand, Woman given acid to drink, dies

Posted by 498A_Crusader on March 1, 2008

Ghaziabad, Mar 1 (IANS) A 30-year-old housewife died here after she was brutally beaten up by her husband and in-laws demanding more dowry and then given acid to drink instead of water.

Mamta, a resident of Shaheed Nagar locality of this city, was assaulted by her husband Satish and other members of the family on Wednesday night. They demanded that she ask her parents for more money. When she collapsed half-conscious from the beating and asked for water, the husband’s family gave her acid to drink. She died in hospital later.

The police have registered a criminal case against the husband, the father-in-law, mother-in-law and sister-in-law.

According to the police, Mamta, who belonged to Garh Mukteswar in Uttar Pradesh, was married to Satish in 2001. Her husband began harassing her for dowry right thereafter. But Mamta pleaded that her parents were small farmers and could not give more money.

But Satish, whose small shop was not doing well, kept harassing her for money. The couple had three children – Manish (6), Shivam (5) and Beenu (3).

Mamta was taken to Delhi’s Guru Tegh Bahadur Hospital, where she died Thursday night. Her brother Niwas Singh filed a complaint with the police.

Deputy Superintendent of Police Circle Officer S.P. Singh told IANS that all the accused were absconding.

//Law should be equal to all, crime is crime, and crminals should treated with punishent of AN EYE FOR AN EYE.

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Violence at Home A Truth for The Indian Husband
Narcissists Modern Indian Woman?
Indias Legal Tools of Extortion
Reconciliation
TRUE Colour of Media and Women
My Vision My Dream
The Indian GenderBiased Domestic Violence Act
Indian Mens Legal Torture
PRE NUPITAL CONTRACT
Think before get marry Indian Women

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GGRS threatens to sue Renuka, Girija

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 24, 2008

The Gujarat Gaurav Raksha Samiti (GGRS) today threatened to file a suit in the High Court against Union Women and Child Development Minister Renuka Chowdhury and National Commission for Women (NCW) Chairperson Girija Vyas for ”deliberately lying and lowering the credibility of the two women institutions.” The samiti which has written to Prime Minister Manmohan Singh, seeking immediate action against the two women leaders, also demanded a public apology from the duo for deliberately lying to the people through print and electronic media.

Taking strong exception to Ms Chowdhury’s Gujarat poll-eve statement that the State had not implemented the centre’s Domestic Violence Act, 2006, Samiti president Vijay Wadhwani charged the minister with having defamed and deeply hurt the sentiments of Gujarati people by her ”totally baseless and false statement”.

In fact, Mr Wadhwani claimed, that Gujarat was among the first states to implement the Domestic Violence Act, and ranked sixth in the country as far as the registration of number of cases was concerned.

The newly-formed apolitical organisation had created a flutter in political circles here, by putting up unnamed banners across the city yesterday where in it had threatened to unmask two national-level leaders before the Gandhi Nagar Gruh today. Sensing trouble, city police had made elaborate security arrangements in and around the venue since morning before the group members started assembling at the stipulated venue with banners, placards, newspaper clippings and video tapes of Minister Chowdhury and Ms Vyas.

The samiti president also criticised Ms Vyas, who had reportedly told a news channel that proposal had been sent to the Law Ministry to enhance punishment to dowry givers.

”This is a totally contradictory statement as the official website of the National Commission for Women– ncw.nic.in — mentions about its proposal to exclude dowry givers from punishment,” Mr Wadhwani said and warned the UPA government against the NCW’s proposal to exclude dowry givers.

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MINISTER RENUKA CHOWDHURY EXPOSED LYING << Click here.

NATIONAL COMMISSION OF WOMEN (NCW) CHAIRPERSON GIRIJA VYAS EXPOSED LYING << Click Here.

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I am a slave to my wife: Rajat Kapoor

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 23, 2008

New Delhi, Feb 23 (IANS) Bollywood director-actor Rajat Kapoor says women might play ornamental roles in reel life but they are more powerful than men in real life.

“As far as Indian cinema is concerned actresses are still considered decorative while heroes take the cake. However, in real life and specially in relationships, women are more powerful than men,” said the actor who often dons the mantle of director too.

“A woman keeps a family or any relationship intact. In my home I am a slave to my wife (Meenal) and daughter (Rabia),” Rajat told IANS.

Audiences have heaped praise on the multifaceted star for his latest directorial venture “Mithya”, which stars Ranvir Shorey, Neha Dhupia and Naseeruddin Shah.

His stint in Bollywood started as a director with “Tarana”. Soon critical acclaim followed with “Raghu Romeo” and “Mixed Doubles”.

He has no commercial hits to his name yet and most of his films target a niche audience, but he is unfazed.

“I have a certain sensibility and I make films in accordance with that. I am not interested in making an ‘Om Shanti Om’ because it does nothing for me. When I watch it, I am bored.”

As an actor, he started his career with telefilms and television serials. The talented star forayed into big-time acting with the blockbuster “Dil Chahta Hai”. Rajat’s performance was largely appreciated in “Corporate”, “Bheja Fry” and “Khoya Khoya Chand”.

Currently, the actor is hosting a celebrity chat show on entertainment and lifestyle TV channel NDTV Good Times and National Geographic’s quiz show “Lufthansa Nat Geo Genius”.

However, he resists any plans of acting in soap operas or making them.

“I am not interested in doing television serials. Selling serious content is difficult through daily soaps. Trivialisation of news and TV is going on worldwide and one can’t fight it.

“Moreover, one can’t make a good serial because the economics of the small screen are so bizarre.”

Rajat’s forthcoming films include “I am 24″, “Halla” and “Raat Gayi Baat Gayi”.

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Violence at Home A Truth for The Indian Husband
Narcissists Modern Indian Woman?
Indias Legal Tools of Extortion
Reconciliation
TRUE Colour of Media and Women
My Vision My Dream
The Indian GenderBiased Domestic Violence Act
Indian Mens Legal Torture
PRE NUPITAL CONTRACT
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Babli races ahead without Bunty

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 17, 2008

Kamini, 26, a pretty girl from Sonepat, married an engineer from Gwalior and settled in Pune last year. Within six months of the marriage, the couple filed for divorce in the Sonepat district court. The reason: growing marital discord after Kamini’s husband found out that she was buying air tickets from Delhi to Pune for her lover in Sonepat from his credit card.

Neeta, 24, who runs a beauty parlour in Sonepat, married a police constable from UP. Within a few months, she felt he was not the kind of person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. She filed for divorce and even slapped her husband in court.

These two cases from Sonepat, a small town in Haryana, are reflective of a growing trend in small town India, where an increasing number of young women have been filing petitions for separation. Says Bhupeshwar Dayal, a lawyer who handles several divorce cases in Sonepat’s district court, “Till 5-6 years ago, you could hardly see any woman in the court premises. Today, there are lots of young, pretty faces, most of whom are here for cases relating to divorce and maintenance.”

Divorce, Dayal says, is no longer a taboo and a divorced daughter is not unwelcome in her parent’s homes anymore in small towns. “Recently, I had the case of a girl who sought divorce because she thought her husband was giving his mother more attention than her. In the new socio-economic environment in small towns, women do not feel shy of walking out of marriage,” says another lawyer, not wishing to be named.

“Social trends originating in metros slowly percolate down to smaller towns and from there, to villages. Today, girls in smaller towns, especially those belonging to the upper class are as aspirational as their metro counterparts and wish to follow the latter — whether it is their dress, food habits or keeping late hours. The small town male just cannot digest this,” says Arun Bhardwaj, a Sonepat lawyer who now practices in Delhi High Court.

While both Dayal and Bhardwaj blame the shift on soap operas on the small screen, sociologists say that soap operas can have only a limited effect in influencing social mindsets. “The fact is that there is a new Indian woman everywhere — whether it is in smaller towns, metros or villages, thanks to globalisation. She is not willing to tolerate violence and mental torture, even if it means getting a divorce,” says Ranjana Kumari, director, Centre for Social Research, New Delhi.

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//Moral of the story, indian women think and want, her husband abandon his old parests; who spent everything and sacrifised thier life to raise him and made him to reach that status 

Truth About Dowry Law and Its Misuse
Violence at Home A Truth for The Indian Husband
Narcissists Modern Indian Woman?
Indias Legal Tools of Extortion
Reconciliation
TRUE Colour of Media and Women
My Vision My Dream
The Indian GenderBiased Domestic Violence Act
Indian Mens Legal Torture
PRE NUPITAL CONTRACT
Think before get marry Indian Women

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Marital discord drives Autocop top exec to suicide

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 14, 2008

FARIDABAD: In an incident that has left Charmwood Village in Faridabad shaken, the 35-year-old managing director of a major car security system manufacturing company, Autocop, allegedly committed suicide by shooting himself with his own revolver on Monday night.

Harsh Sharma had reportedly returned home early on Monday evening. According to the police, he shot himself around 8 pm and was rushed to Apollo Hospital in Delhi.

Police sources said his wife, Anshu Sharma, a trainee pilot with a commercial airlines, was away in Hyderabad. His mother and two daughters, who were in another room, heard the gunshot and rushed to his bedroom in villa no 20 where they found him lying in a pool of blood.

The neighbours then rushed to the house and the family physician was called by Anshu, who had by then been informed of the tragic incident. The family rushed him to Apollo Hospital where the doctors declared him brought dead. His body was later taken to Safdarjung Hospital for autopsy. Police officials said that though they were investigating the reason for Sharma taking the extreme step, prima facie it seemed that personal reasons pushed him over the edge.

“Preliminary investigations suggest that Sharma was not happy with his marriage. He often had prolonged arguments with his wife. He was depressed over the past few days. However, his family members have refused to talk to the police. They have claimed that since the unfortunate incident was a personal matter, they would not like to share this with the police,” said Darshan Lal Mallik, DSP, Faridabad.

However, police said they had not found any suicide note on the spot. “He used his own licensed revolver to shoot himself,” added the officer.

Sharma is survived by his wife, two teenage daughters and his ailing mother. This is another incident of a personal firearm, kept for security reasons, leading to a tragedy.
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NATIONAL CRIME RECORDS BUREAU 2006 DATA

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 11, 2008

NATIONAL CRIME RECORDS BUREAU 2006 DATA

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Domestic violence against man exposed

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 10, 2008

A court in Ernakulam has unearthed “violence against man” in a case arising out of a woman’s petition alleging that her husband unleashed domestic violence on her.

Dismissing the petition filed by Ms Honey Jacob of Udayamperoor in Kochi, the Ernakulam Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate Cherian K Kuriakose said she had raised the allegation only to cover up her illicit relation with a colleague of hers.

Ms Jacob who was working as an executive in a leading private insurance firm had levelled several allegations against her husband Shelly Jose who is a partially disabled man.

She said he had physically abused her and insulted her in front of family members. He did not let her go to her parental house for delivery and was forced to move out of the house she had purchased with her money. He had also refused to release the custody of their child.

The woman also said among other things that her husband propagated scandals against her.

Text messages

However, the court found that Honey had filed the complaint only after Shelly accidentally came across several intimate messages in Honey’s cellphone on November 7 last year. These were sent by Mr Harikrishnan, who was then the firm’s assistant regional manager at Kottayam.

“A few of the messages extracted would show that there was a clear illicit relationship between Harikrishnan and the petitioner.

It is unfortunate that the Domestic Violence Act has not provided any punishment to such intruders who mar the peaceful family life of the innocent,” the order said. It also quoted several messages sent and received by Ms Honey Jacob.

Violence against man

“The evidence discloses that this is not a case where there was perpetration of violence against a woman, but is a clear case of violence against man in the domestic relationship for which there is no penalty,” it said.
The Domestic Violence Act that came into force a year ago allows courts to punish husbands who beat, threaten or even shout at their wives or live-in partners with jail of up to a year and a fine of Rs 20,000.

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False dowry case – Man kills self

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 7, 2008

Lucknow, February 6 A 30-year-old man, Pushkar Singh, committed suicide by hanging himself from a ceiling fan at his home in Jankipuram area of Vikas Nagar, on Wednesday.
In a suicide note, addressed to the Allahabad High Court, Singh alleges that he was framed in a dowry case by his wife Vinita and her relatives, due to which he had to spend time in judicial custody for four months.

The Vikas Nagar police registered a case later in the day.

“During the investigation, if we find it necessary to question Vinita, we will definitely record her statement,” said BP Singh, Station Officer, Vikas Nagar.

Pleading innocence and holding his wife responsible for the extreme step he was taking, Singh’s note states: “I was sent to jail after a false dowry case was lodged against me by Vinita and her family, who had demanded Rs 14 lakh as a compensation. Neither my father nor I had seen such a big amount in our lives. We even sold our house to contest the case.”

According to reports, Singh married Vinita about two years ago and lived in Allahabad since.

Early last year, his wife left him and started living with her family.

A case under Sections 323 (voluntarily causing hurt), 498 (A) (cruelty by husband or relatives of husband) and 504 (intentional insult) was lodged by Vinita and her relatives before she left him.

In the note, Singh wrote he was in the Naini Central Jail from “September 29 to December 24, 2007”.

Shishupal Singh, Singh’s brother-in-law, said he was disturbed ever since he released from jail. The court case constantly haunted him.

“After he was bailed out, he was living with his mother, younger sister and a physically-challenged brother in a rented house in Jankipuram.” The family had their own house in Indira Nagar, which was recently sold to meet the legal expenses, he added.

“While he searched for a job, he drove a three-wheeler for a living. A few days ago, he received a notice from the court and since then, he stopped stepping out of the house,” he said.

In the note, Singh further wrote: “I would also like to request Vinita not to harass my family in future. It was my mistake to marry her and I am repenting it by sacrificing my life.”

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Women facing harassment can write to us: SC

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 6, 2008

NEW DELHI: Women, facing harassment in their in-laws’ home or at any other place, can straightaway write to the Supreme Court and their letter would be entertained as public interest litigation (PIL), new eligibility guidelines published by the top court said.

Incidents of torture resulting from moral policing by village panchayats, generally in the news for ostracising couples in inter-caste marriages where one of them belong to a backward class, would also be entertained as PILs, it said.

Tired of dealing with the heap of PILs that crowd the list of cases to be heard daily, the court has come out with an eligibility test for PILs to limit their number and reduce the burden on judges.

No petition involving individual or personal matter shall be entertained as public interest litigation, said the recent guidelines posted on the apex court website.

“Letter-petitions (letters written by aggrieved parties to the apex court directly without filing a petition in the registry) will ordinarily be entertained as PIL,” said the guidelines putting the petitions into 10 categories.

The court, which had seen a flurry of public interest litigation on admissions to educational institutions, has completely banned PILs on the admission issue.

The categories under which letter-petitions would be entertained are:

• Atrocities against women, especially harassment of bride, bride burning, rape, murder, kidnapping etc.
• Harassment or torture of villagers by co-villagers or by police from persons belonging to SC or ST or economically backward classes
• Bonded labour matters
• Neglected children
• Non-payment of minimum wages to workers
• Harassment of jail inmates (not to include petitions for parole)
• Refusal of police to register case, harassment by police and custodial death
• Environmental pollution, wildlife and maintenance of heritage and culture
• Petitions from riot victims and those seeking family pension

All letter-petitions received in the PIL cell would be screened and if found meeting the eligibility criteria, would be placed before a judge nominated by the Chief Justice of India for scrutiny.

If the judge finds the letter PIL suitable, only then it would be put up for hearing in open court, the guidelines said.

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// Lets Ask all our Mothers and sisters to write to SC, who are harassed with False 498A.LET THEM EAT THIER OWN SHIT

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Feminism in India has no integrity. You can’t trust it

Posted by 498A_Crusader on February 5, 2008

Madhu Kishwar is a fearless and provocative thinker, unafraid to ride againt the wave. In part 6 of the Tehelka series on public intellectuals, she discusses her controversial positions on dowry, sati, the family and feminism with Shoma Chaudhury

You were a pioneer. But you are seen to have taken a very divergent route, of having moved away from your own ideas to arrive at some problematic positions on dowry, sati, etc.The funny thing is my views have not become different. When I started Manushi, the people who now express outrage at my supposed non-feminist stands attacked me then for being a feminist and for being anti-men. As Miranda House president I ran a campaign against the college beauty contest. Leading feminists of India today fought for the beauty contest. They thought it was a glorious symbol of liberated womanhood. Then they went abroad and realised beauty contests were not fashionable and came back with ultra feminist ideas. There were others who attacked me for being a bourgeois feminist — these were the ones who’d turned leftist after going to Columbia and Cambridge. Others called me a radical feminist who was teaching women to become lesbians and rape each other. (Laughing) All this simultaneously. But right from the beginning, I’ve been very averse to label warfare. I found my freedom by saying I’m not a feminist. I’m not any ‘ist’. Isms work like an aids virus on your brain. You don’t evaluate issues on merits. You brush inconvenient facts under the carpet because everything must fit into this very neat ideological framework. Even before I disowned the label publicly by writing my most controversial essay — Why I’m Not A Feminist — I never used the feminism mantra to prove my bonafides. I believe your politics has to be pro people, pro women — and you have to demonstrate this concretely.

What is your position on sati?

The whole discourse on sati is so colonial minded, I’m appalled people don’t give up bad habits. Firstly, take the word sati. Its literal translation is one who is so possessed by ‘sat’ (the spirit of truth), her body self ignites. Such a case might happen once in a thousand years. For even the most conservative and rabid Hindu, it does not mean a woman dragged and thrown into her husband’s pyre by force or fraud. There are five mahasatis in the mythological tradition — Draupadi, Kunti, Mandodari, Sita, Tara — none of them burnt on their husband’s pyres. So what I say is this: if you are saying a Roop Kanwar or Charan Shah was dragged on to their husband’s pyre — it’s murder, why call it sati? The British made that mistake; Ram Mohun Roy made that mistake. If a woman jumps into the pyre without provocation, it’s suicide. But Romeo and Juliet’s suicide for each other evokes awe, and it remains one of the most celebrated love stories of all time. Why resent the same thing in Indian people? Learn to distinguish between crime and culture. Murder is a crime. If it’s suicide — especially if there’s no fanfare like in the case of Charan Shah, the 55-year old widow who jumped into the pyre after everyone had left — you can feel sorry she was so depressed. But her poor family didn’t even know she’d jumped in. They were so poor they couldn’t afford his TB treatment. None of these feminists were there when this woman was nursing him. But at his death, they agitate to get her whole family and village arrested! This colonial minded aggression of the elite against the poor — they don’t dare do that when Natwar Singh’s daughter-in-law jumps to her death, god knows under what circumstance. No feminist dared to yell and scream there —

What about the glorification of these deaths?

Glorification shouldn’t happen, but you can’t prevent people from glorifying. Look at Princess Diana, the most stupid woman in the history of womankind, who flung herself at the most worthless men in the world — she’s glorified by the British people. Should I send them to jail? People glorify the Kali-Chandi roop of the Devi. I hate blood and gore, should I send them to jail? The beauty of traditional society in India is that it allows you to worship women in diverse manifestations. You can pick and choose your own role models. Why do feminists assume the right to tell people, don’t worship Sita because she’s not a feminist favourite, don’t worship Radha because she’s besotted by male love. Worship only the ferocious versions of the goddess. Venerating a sati sthal doesn’t lead to women jumping on pyres. How many satis have there been — 40 or 50 in the last 60 years? Many more gruesome deaths happen for other causes. The women’s movement is so fascist minded, the need to fall in line is so intense, I feel choked. You can’t speak the truth: they want lies. I say a large part of feminist reports are half lies and exaggerated falsifications.

You have unpopular arguments against the Domestic Violence Bill and dowry laws. Firstly, I say laws must reflect social consensus. Secondly, they must work like small, judicious antibiotic doses. Targeted at specific points of infection and never overused. Antibiotics can’t become food substitutes. Thirdly, anyone imposing a law must prove the law can work. Workability and acceptance, these are very important.

When I believed dowry needed to be abolished, I took a vow that I wouldn’t go for any dowry wedding. For 13 years, I didn’t attend a single wedding because no wedding qualified. Feminist friends, lawyers, ias officers, mps, everyone exchanged elaborate gifts. That’s when I realized the real issue here was that women had no inheritance rights, daughters are not treated as equal members viz. family property. I was again accused of bourgeoise feminism by feminists who themselves would not part with ten rupees. What I say is, if you will not live by your own ideas, how dare you presume to legislate for one billion and a half people? You have no moral right! Morning shout slogans outside other people’s homes, evening wear your kanjeevarams and go…

But hasn’t the debate created deterrence?

Has dowry decreased? It has spread horizontally to groups that never practiced it before. Communities that were bride price paying till the last generation are today practicing dowry. What is the point of this wonderful awareness? I don’t like the form and shape dowry has taken. It is a caricature. I still stand for stree dhan: the inalienable property given to a woman at the time of her marriage. A share of property no one could touch, not even her husband. From there we have moved to groom price. It is no longer anything to do with a daughter’s perceived share. So what I’m saying is restore women’s inheritance rights. Not draconian laws that can be abused.

Feminists are only sensitive to a woman in the role of a young bride. In every other role — a mother-in-law, sister-in-law, bhabi — we think of her as a tormentor. Where does this conception come from? We have to focus on strengthening bonds within the family.

How do you do that? Those are private spaces.

If your idea of a family is only the western nuclear Americanised family where everybody else is a nuisance — well then you can’t. The strength of our culture lies in strong family and community roots. You can’t strengthen women’s rights by breaking down the family.

Don’t joint families impinge on individuals?

You need to sort that out. I’m not for oppressive families. In a traditional Hindu joint family, every member had an inalienable right to the property. This made women secure. As for adjustment, that’s a process of give and take. You adjust with everyone. Bosses, colleagues, neighbours. Yet, working out healthy equations with family has somehow become a sign of mental slavery. A child who lives in a joint family deals with a range of people from 85 years to eight months every day. What else is eq? What else is human skill learning? But for many feminists, getting along with a mother-in-law, or even having a happy marriage is a sign of slavery! That’s where my emotional break with the movement came from. This insistence on joyless, confrontational living. The least you owe to yourself is to have lives that other people can look at and envy! Feminism is inviting such disdain and backlash in India because it lacks both fighting power and integrity. In the west at least, women fought bitter battles. Here, men led the way. The Gandhis, the Phules. I’m not ashamed to acknowledge that.Your are now intensely focused on street vendors. Where do you stand on issues of liberalisation and globalisation?

I’ve never been what I call a compulsive womaniser! Right from the start, we’ve had a commitment to tribals, dalits, the farm sector. So in 1991, when economic reforms were adopted in India, I was shocked to find that those who claimed to be pro-poor turned anti reforms. As if de-statising, de-bureaucratising the Indian economy is quintessentially anti-poor. I think in this sector Manushi was the only organization who stood firmly to say the poor need economic reforms far more urgently than the rich, that we need a bottom up approach to liberalisation. For the poor, it is a life and death issue; for them corruption routinely takes the form of human rights abuses — beatings, extortion, violence, terror. We made a film on the street vendor and cycle rickshaw sectors. Our work showed in Delhi alone, these two groups of self employed poor pay at least 50 crore per month by way of bribes. In addition there are beatings, harassment, confiscation of goods, jails. So began the whole campaign.

The policies of the government against vendors is bizarre! They stipulate the numbers allowed, then they don’t issue licenses for 5-10 years. We said, let the market dictate the number of vendors. And if you are prejudiced against their hygiene, we will create a model to show how they can be accommodated into the economy of a city. Finally we were given 159 vendors in Sewa Nagar and we have created the first completely bribe free zone; stalls, toilets, public spaces all made by the vendors themselves. We’ve gone through hell – but we’ve done it. We will soon be ready to make it public. Then I think there will be a real ground swell.

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Men think they have a right to assault women

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 28, 2008

NEW DELHI: A plastic surgeon accused of sexually assaulting his patients; a doctor charged with the rape of a 10-year-old; a mob stripping two women in public; a hotel owner held for raping a tourist; a Russian doctor molested and a UK tourist raped — all this in a span of less than a month. What explains this trend?

Are we as a society reaching a new low? Or is it just that such cases are being reported more often?

NCW chairperson Girija Vyas says: “These men think they have the right to assault women and they are meant to be assaulted.” What’s striking is the change in profile of the molester. An NRI recently assaulted a mall staffer, another molested a cabin crew member on board.

Jitendra Nagpal, a psychiatrist, says: “Not only do we lack value education, but we also lack lessons in life skills. A person indulging in such acts may show some unusual traits as a child that need to be worked at. Parents and schools should not overlook if a child is short-tempered or moody. Children need to be taught anger management, methods to cope with stress.”

Vyas agrees. “We need to teach children early that women must be respected and in this, a family plays a vital role. A child who sees his mother being harassed every day will never learn to respect women. Parents should be very careful about their action in front of kids.”

Some blame it on the changing lifestyles. There is a feeling that youngsters are getting too much too early. Says B M Tripathi, senior doctor, AIIMS: “Alcohol makes a person loose control over self. Normally a person would not indulge in such acts but under the influence of addictive substances, it’s easy to lose ones’ understanding of what is right and wrong.”

Nagpal attributes the spurt in such crimes to increase in work pressure and stress. Clinical psychologist Aroona Bruta refuses to buy this argument, though. She says crime against women can’t be a stress-buster.

“There has to be a pathological disorder that will make a person indulge in such acts. In most cases, molesters do have an abusive history or they have been a victim themselves.”

She adds: “The expression of sex has become very free. With information easily available on internet, TV, mobiles, it’s easy to fall prey to ones whims.” Lack of fear of punishment also acts as a catalyst. Says Sandeep Malhotra, psychiatrist, “People know they can easily get away with such crimes. Even good samaritans do not raise their voice, as they fear getting entangled in a long judicial process.”

He further adds, “Maybe the country is not ready for a cultural transition. People are not able to cope with the freedom and open society which the country is moving towards.” Bruta says,”Men are not able to face competition from women. It’s a way to put them down.”

However, all is not lost. Says Girija Vyas, “Thinking pattern of men can be changed. It’s not that tough to teach them. All we need is to educate them young.” She adds, “Our law needs to be modified. We need gender-based training and a more sensitised media. Victims need to feel secure and have more faith in the police.”

Adds Bruta: “We definitely need more stringent laws, but a strict and quick implementation of those laws is also essential.” So, is it time for a complete overhaul of our society?

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Why Alimony ?

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 27, 2008

What is Alimony:
Payment that a family court may order one person in a couple to make to the other person when that couple separates or divorces. Alimony is an award for support and maintenance that one spouse may be compelled to pay to another after dissolution of the marriage,

In the common legal sense of the word, alimony is the allowance which by order of the court a husband pays to his wife for her maintenance while she is living separately from him, or the allowance or provision ordered by the court to be paid by her former husband to a divorced woman. There are two kinds of alimony, the one kind, alimony pendente lite, being an allowance to the wife pending a suit between herself and her husband, and the other the allowance or provision after suit, and which is known as permanent alimony. Source >> www.newadvent.org/cathen/01313a.htm

American version of alimony with definition.:

For example, suppose two individuals who married in 1985 agree in 1995 to divorce. At the time of the divorce, the husband earns $63,000 a year, after seven years at a large company where the top pay for his specialty is $80,000. When the couple married, he was in graduate school and the wife was earning $22,000. The wife worked for three more years, supporting the husband while he completed his coursework and graduated.
When their first child was born, they agreed that the wife would care for the child at home. At the time of divorce, the wife had been working full-time for one year since the couple’s children, ages seven and six, had entered school. She was earning $23,000 a year and would have custody of the children.
A judge in this case would certainly award child support and would probably divide marital property equally between the couple. But it might not seem fair to the judge to allow the husband to leave the marriage with the sole possession of the couple’s most valuable asset—his earning potential—when the wife contributed to his education by supporting him.
Unlike the family’s home or station wagon, the husband’s earning power has not yet reached its full value, but it promises to grow. It seems especially unfair for the wife not to receive a share of it since after helping the husband attain his education she agreed to forfeit her earning power to invest time in the family. The several years she spent out of the workforce continue to handicap her earnings. Alimony is the only means available to the court to avoid a potentially unjust division of assets.

Source : legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/alimony
Scenario 1: When I Found a job in a big metropolitan city, I’m in search of accommodation; I asked my friends to look one for me. They found one lady ready to share her house, as she was staying alone. She told my friends that she will take huge amount of Advance or surety and Rent, but when I moved in she did not asked any nor after that. She was working in managerial capacity so she did not wanted any money as a rent, I was cooking myself, so she also joined me, as she liked my home food. She was out of house most of the house, and I was coming home early then I started to do house work cleaning also. She was paying all maintenance and bills of the house even every week she was ordering weekly ration / groceries. I hardly paid anything, as she knew I earn meager amount. As time passed by we drew closer and end up in BED together, we both enjoyed, I fulfilled all her fantasies and wild desires.

Later after few years I fell in love with other girl, and she found out.
  After this incident, she asked me to vacate her house.
  I went to Police and gave complaint that she is harassing me and asking to vacate her house.

BUT POLICE DID NOTHING AND THEY REFUSE TO TAKE MY COMPLAINT.

I went to court asking support as I was homeless, and with meager salary it is difficult maintain myself in big metropolitan city.

COURT ALSO DID NOT TAKE MY CASE.

SCENARIO 2: I was having good job and my own house and very good reputation in society. I found a girl where I was working and she moved in with me and we started to live together. She was receptionist and she was working in fix time, so she was coming home early. I was in management position, so my timing was differing everyday. As she was coming early she was cooking and cleaning, and we got physical too. Most of the time I was coming late, business meeting and out of town visits. once I went to other town and told her I’ll be back after a week, but within 2 days I fell ill and I returned back to find this girl with her lover on my own bed.

I asked her leave my house immediately, but she went to police and reported, that I’m harassing her and asking dowry.

Police registered complaint on her one word, without varifing any facts, Even there was no enquiry or investigation; and I was in jail for 15 days till I got bail. Not only me she charged my old parents who never visited us and they were in 1000Km far away native place. All are booked under Dowry and domestic violence Act.

When I came out of jail, she already got Court order to not to vacate her, and restrain me from my own house.

In America (USA) wife is entitled for alimony on this example can be justified. (Ref:to receive a share of it since after helping the husband attain his education she agreed to forfeit her earning power to invest time in the family. The several years she spent out of the workforce continue to handicap her earnings) 

BUT, THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS IN INDIA. (Two Scenarios)

When marry Indian women bring nothing, nor her parents give anything to Man / Husband
When man goes to police, complaining about his wife, Police never take any complaint, Even he produce proofs of threats and wound.
When husband caught wife with her extra marital Affairs she can file dowry case and domestic Violence case on husband, even his old parents ho never visited her.
Women can legally occupy husband house, even she never contribute anything to build the house.
Even Husband is forced to pay her Alimony, Even he caught her Red handed.

As Per Scenario #1
If man goes to police they will not take complaint.
Police will not arrest her
Even she work and earn huge amount man is not entitled for alimony.

Now the question is:
We all know Wife hardly bring anything WHEN SHE MARRY
She will not contribute ANYTHING to build house.
What she do as a housewife, cooking and cleaning, servants also can do for less.
In sex man is the not the only one WHO enjoy, she IS also enjoy.

So when she leaves for her own fault why Indian men forced to pay ALIMONY.
Why she get half of his Property, along with all gifts he gave.
WHY THIS PARTIALITY
WHY THIS STEP MOTHER POLICY.
WHY ALIMONY.

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Morality and Indian woman’s mind

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 26, 2008

Who is the Indian woman? What image does the nation have of her?

The CNN-IBN-CSDS-Indian Express State of the Nation Survey busts several myths about the Indian woman.

The Indian woman is either portrayed as a meek sati-savitri or as Durga, the irrepressible rebel. The truth is much more complex.

Women believe that their role should not be restricted to staying at home and looking after the family. As many as 77 of urban women and 69 of rural women support the proposition that there is nothing wrong in them going out and working, the survey found.

But the stereotype that men are generally more intelligent than women is accepted by a large number of women, says the survey.

When asked to react to the question that there is nothing wrong for women to have sexual desires, 50 percent were in favour. The ratio is of course higher among young metropolitan women, but no section displays a dominance of Victorian prudishness, says the survey. But 86 percent of women don’t support the idea of live-in relationship.

What do such views tell about the Indian woman? CNN-IBN’s Senior Editor Sagarika Ghose asked this to Poornima Advani, lawyer and former chairperson of the National Commission for Women, ad guru Prahlad Kakkar, Shefalee Vasudev, editor of Marie Claire India, and writer Abha Dawesar.

Does survey indicate that women consider marriage a ‘freeing mechanism’? The answer is yes but there is a catch to it, said Vasudev.

“This agenda of liberation that women have—which has come with financial freedom and changing roles—has made them prisoners of war in confines of morality. They want to free out of that. A prisoner of war is good only when he is free. I am not sure if the survey indicates that (women believe) marriage is a freer of women and live-in relationship enslaves them,” said Vasudev.

If marriage is ‘the’ institution for women, does it explain their views on sex?

Kakkar said India is a conservative society but women decide the country’s morality. “Society is very, very favoured toward men but (it’s morality) is implemented by women. It is not a male-dominated but a male-scripted society. People who actually implement moral issues very vociferously are women,” said Kakkar.

Advani disagreed that women set the moral agenda. “The finding that only 6 percent women approve of live-in relationship shows that we value our family system. This shows we think that very basis of our social fabric is the family unit,” she said.

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A fight with your spouse could be good for health: study

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 24, 2008

A good fight with your spouse could be good for the health, a new study has found.

Couples who suppressed their anger have a mortality rate twice as high as those in which at least one partner stands up for themselves, according to the study which tracked 192 US couples for 17 years.

“When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict,” said lead author Ernest Harburg, an emeritus professor with the University of Michigan.

“The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it?” he said.

“When you don’t, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don’t try to resolve the problem, then you’re in trouble.”

Previous studies have shown that suppressing anger increases stress-related illnesses like heart disease and high blood pressure.

This study looks at how suppressed anger and the resulting buildup of resentment in a marriage affects overall mortality rates.

It adjusted for age, smoking, weight, blood pressure, bronchial problems, breathing, and cardiovascular risk.

Harburg and his colleagues used a questionnaire to determine how the spouses responded to behaviour that they perceived as unfair.

Both spouses suppressed their anger in 26 of the couples while at least one spouse expressed their anger in the remaining 166 couples.

At least one death was recorded in half the couples who suppressed their anger, whereas only 26 percent of the other couples suffered from the death of a spouse.

And the anger-supressing couples were nearly five times more likely to both be dead 17 years later, the study found.

Harburg cautioned that the results are still preliminary and do not constitute a representative sample of current marital relationships.

The study period covers couples interviewed in 1971 and measures survival through 1988.

It was carried out in a small, predominantly white and middle class town in Michigan and most of the women were “housewives” born before the sexual revolution.

An upcoming analysis of survival rates 30 years later will yield more reliable results, Harburg said.

The paper will appear in the January edition of the Journal of Family Communication.

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Demand Huge Dowry

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 22, 2008

Government statistics and media reports that there is wide misuse of dowry law and other gender biased laws, still this old bufelao says.

The number of registered cases related to dowry and sexual harassment of women has increased in the State after the implementation of the Domestic Violence Act, 2005[ Full news posted below ]

These women organsiation keeps on barking lies,  supporting and promoting misuse of these laws  then we have to adopt new approch. so far we supported women against dowry demand.  we went to jail for no reason, for not taking dowry, thats the mistake we did.

If government and these women organsiation are not interested in our voice of harassment and misuse of these laws.

WE STRONGLY SUPPORT DOWRY. HUGE DOWRY.

Till girls marriage, her parents are eager to dispose thier duaghter at any cost, some sell thier property to get her married. so far we denied any dowry or gifts,still these laws,
send us behind bars;
Dragged our old parents to jail.
Lockedup our pregnent sisters, even breast fed children without mercy and on one word of women.

so what is the use, not taking dowry, anyway we are going to jail, our old parents are harassed, why not take dowry and go to jail ?

I hereby urge Every member, who is going to marry Second time and all the bachelors

DEMAND DOWRY, HUGE DOWRY

But cover your tracks, leave no traces of dowry.

Take it in writting that you never took or demanded any dowry at the time of marriage, and desperate girl family will give in writting as they want to dispose thier daughter.

Do not take gifts, but CASH ONLY, say NO to cheques.

Give cheques to girls Father, asking to encash and return cash back to you. and keep all these proofs.

when you take CASH, from your right hand, left hand should not know this, and CAMERAS,not at all.

in case,still you stuck with false 498a, you can use thier own money to fight your case.

and i`m sure they will not file any false dowry case, coz they will lose their money and get divorce to thier Daughter.

THIS IS THE ONLY SOLUTION I CAN FORSEE. to solve false dowry case.

DEMAND HUGE DOWRY, DEMAND HUGE DOWRY, DEMAND HUGE DOWRY

>> NEWS :
BANGALORE: The number of registered cases related to dowry and sexual harassment of women has increased in the State after the implementation of the Domestic Violence Act, 2005, according to Girija Vyas, Chairperson, National Commission for Women.

Addressing presspersons after a meeting with non-governmental organisations and officials of the Women and Child Welfare Department here on Friday, Dr. Vyas said that 192 dowry cases and 221 sexual harassment cases had been registered in the State in the last three months. The Act came into force on October 26, 2006. The number of such registered cases was less than 100 earlier.

To punish those involved in molestation and eve-teasing, the commission drafted a comprehensive sexual harassment bill and submitted it to the Union Government a year ago. The bill was aimed to increase punishment to the guilty and provide compensation to victims, she said.

She lauded the implementation of the Act in the State and instructed the department officials to launch more awareness programmes for its effective enforcement and speedy disposal of cases.

For providing legal, medical and financial aid and protect the interests of women, a notification was issued last year to enable organisations to register themselves as service providers. As many as 169 proposals have been received from various organisations and 21 of them were notified as service providers, Dr. Vyas said.

Women are getting justice under the Act within the stipulated period of 60 days. The Police Department has started two special cells for the purpose, secretary of the Women and Child Welfare Department, Shalini Rajneesh, said.
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Harassed husbands now take to the streets

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 21, 2008

They want Domestic Violence Act amended to include provisions for men

BANGALORE: The tables have turned. Husbands harassed by their wives have finally realised the futility of taking things lying down.

Beginning with Bangalore on Saturday, they are taking to the streets under the banner of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF).

The largest group in India, SIFF was formed in 2000 and has 8,000 members who have been accused of harassing their wives and have been slapped with cases under Domestic Violence Act, 2005, and anti-dowry law (of 498a). According to the group, the Act is being misused by their wives and in-laws.

The group, comprising mainly software engineers, is urging the central government to
make the Act neutral by including in its ambit provisions related to domestic violence against men. The members are holding protests in Delhi, Hyderabad, Chennai, Mumbai and Kolkata for this purpose.

Over 200 members gathered in front of Mahatma Gandhi’s statue near Cubbon Park in Bangalore on Saturday. Armed with placards espousing their cause, they made motivating speeches and narrated to passers-by their plight.

“Men are being portrayed negatively by exaggerated statistics on dowry harassment or domestic violence cases. Women often use the Act to separate from the husbands in lieu of an attractive alimony,” said Binoe, a SIFF member.

According to Pandurang Katti, one of the 12 SIFF founders and a senior software professional, men face a host of issues due to lack of protection from the law.

“The current Domestic Violence Act suffers from gender bias as it is only made for protection of women,” he said.

Uma Challa, director of the US-based Protect Indian Family Foundation which has opened a branch in Hyderabad, said:

“Women call me up just to ask if they can use the Act to bring around their husbands or to separate them from their parents. They do not understand the seriousness of the law. This is predominantly an urban phenomenon,” she said.

“We have websites and helplines that reach out to only internet-savvy people. But we want to create awareness among those who do not have access to the net,” she added.

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Pooja Salot accuses in-laws of harassment

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 19, 2008

AHMEDABAD: After Rajkot-based Pooja Chauhan took to the streets semi-naked to protest domestic violence, yet another Pooja, this one married into a high profile business family in Ahmedabad, has raised her voice against long-standing physical and mental abuse by in-laws. All this for not having a male child and not being able to fulfil a dowry demand of Rs 25 lakhs. Pooja has also alleged that, a few years back, her in-laws had forcibly got her to do a sex-determination test and aborted the foetus as it was female.

Pooja has accused 18 family members for harassment of which 10 members including her husband Chirag Salot and father-in-law Suresh Salot were arrested on Sunday. The family runs many business enterprises in Rakhial and resides in Ishaan Flats in Paldi.

Ellisbridge police station PI, Vinay Shukla said the 10 members, have been booked under IPC sections for physical and mental abuse, dowry harassment, voluntarily causing miscarriage without the woman’s consent and other acts.
“Pooja submitted a written complaint to us on Saturday. After preliminary inquiry, we have arrested 10 members who will be produced before the court for remand on Monday,” Shukla said.

In her complaint, Pooja has said that she, hailing from a middle class family, married Chirag, from a rich business family on May 10, 1996. after which she delivered twin girls Dhvani and Dhruvi (10). This is when the harassment began when all her family members started harassing her for not giving birth to a male child.

“In 1998, I conceived yet again and my in-laws forcibly took me to Dr Sanat Joshi’s clinic for sex-determination. The four-month foetus was a girl child and they got it aborted despite the risk involved”, says Pooja.

“Pooja has complained about forcible abortion. We haven’t been able to meet Dr Joshi yet. Once we meet, we will be able to know the reality”, PI Shukla said.

Later, her in-laws started torturing her for not giving dowry and forced her to get Rs 25 lakhs from her father. She has also alleged that her two brother in-laws made passes at her and even her husband sexually abused her. Pooja has also submitted a written statement she had got from her in-laws in December 2006 which mentions that they will not harass her anymore.

Pooja said she has not been living with her husband since the last one month after the abuse did not stop. Meanwhile, her husbands family at police station told reporters that Chirag had petitioned for divorce and that Pooja was seeking money.

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Men crib, Govt to review domestic violence law

Posted by 498A_Crusader on January 16, 2008

New Delhi: They have been accused of rape and stigmatised by society only to be acquitted in court, but they have not been able to come out of the shadows of the allegations that have shattered their lives.

Says a man who was acquitted of a rape charge (name withheld), “Because of the case, the society has a bad impression of me. My marriage is over and nobody has any respect for me”

He says that he is a victim of one of the several laws meant to protect women.

One law that is reportedly being misused the most is the Domestic Violence Act passed by Parliament just last year. The Supreme Court called it a clumsily drafted law and since its inception, it has even been slapped against some top bureaucrats.

The Government is now talking of reviewing the Act.

Says Minister Women and Child Development, Renuka Chaudhary, “Yes we are sending it to the states in October to find out what all has happened in the last one year and also to find out lacunae, if any, in the existing law.”

The Government is treading with caution and two more laws for women, piloted by the Women and Child Development Ministry, in the pipeline — which were slated to be introduced in the Monsoon Session of Parliament — have been put on hold.

The Bill to prevent sexual harassment at the workplace has been sent to a team of legal experts for review, and the second one — related to dowry — is under the scanner as well.

But women’s rights groups fear that the review might dilute the laws and make them ineffective.

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Violence at Home A Truth for The Indian Husband

Narcissists Modern Indian Woman?

Indias Legal Tools of Extortion

Reconciliation

TRUE Colour of Media and Women

My Vision My Dream

The Indian GenderBiased Domestic Violence Act

Indian Mens Legal Torture

PRE NUPITAL CONTRACT

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